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How To Start An Engaging Conversation With Someone On A Dating App

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Offer a specific compliment.

Pro tip: telling someone “you’re hot” doesn’t really cut it any more. Instead of a generic compliment that could be given to several different matches, try something a little more specific. “You have really nice eyes” sounds a bit more genuine than “you look nice.” Of course, if your compliment is too specific, you can always start by saying “I know this sounds a little weird, but…” Then go ahead and ask a question to keep the conversation moving.

Ask a question about their photos.
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Pick something specific in their photos, like their jacket or the scenery, and ask a question about it. (“I love your jacket in the first pic! Where did you get it?”) You can also ask them about any pets in their pictures. This is a good way to show that you actually looked at their profile, as well as a chance to break the ice. Plus, if they tell you where they got their jacket, you can go buy one for yourself.

Don’t get mad if they don’t reply.
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If somebody leaves you on read, don’t have a temper tantrum and start cussing them out through messages. Just send a nice, non-threatening follow-up message, keep it simple, and remember that sometimes people just forget to reply. You could rephrase your original message, or just send a gif. If they don’t respond after two messages, it’s time to move on.

If they have an unusual career or interest, ask how they discovered it.
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The key here is to show how interested and curious you are, while giving them a chance to talk about something they enjoy. And if you also happen to share this common interest, say so! Shared interests are always a great way to form connections with people. Try something like, “I saw on your profile that you’re a professional basket weaver. I actually just started taking basket weaving classes! How long have you been making baskets?”

Try some light-hearted teasing and banter about their interests.
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This works best with sports teams, favorite movies, and favorite restaurants. For example, you could joke with a Marvel fan about how DC is actually better. If you keep it super light-hearted, this is a great way to make sure they reply to you— after all, Marvel is way better than DC!

Ask a ‘would you rather?’ question.
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Keep it positive (no picking between different ways to die!) and use it to start a conversation with someone who seems more fun or lighthearted. One of my favorites is, “Would you rather travel the world in a boat, or in an RV camper?” A bit basic, but it initiates the conversation. Best case scenario, they reply with their answer and then ask, “you?” So the conversation can keep going.

If they mention their sense of humor, send your cheesiest pick up line.
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Then follow it up with a laughing emoji or something to make sure they know it’s supposed to be cheesy!

Ask for Netflix show recommendations.
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Or movie recommendations, or album recommendations. The more you can connect it with their profile, the better. (Like asking a jazz fan who his favorite band is.) People love to talk about their favorite shows, movies, and music, and if he’s checking his messages, you’re almost guaranteed to get a response.

Send a gif.
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According to DatingXP, sending a gif is the best way to get a response from somebody. It shows that you put some thought into finding the perfect gif, but it’s more visually interesting than a text message. Try sending a gif that says something a little more interesting than “hello.” Best case scenario, they send a gif back, and now you can hold your entire conversation through gifs, which is much more fun.

Just ask them out.
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Last but not least, you can always skip the awkward first few messages and ask them out for coffee. It’s a great way to show that you’re actually interested in a relationship, and if they’re interested, they’ll reply to set up the date. Good luck on your dating journey!

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Doe He Think He Owns You? Signs Of A Possessive Man And How To Fix It

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A relationship is supposed to be a union of two equals, and that definitely ain’t happening if your boyfriend thinks he’s your boss instead of your partner. When you’re dealing with a possessive man, you not only feel like you’re constantly under his thumb but you might even worry for your safety if his controlling ways were to go too far. Here are a few signs he thinks he owns you and how you can put a stop to them ASAP. If that doesn’t work, you’ll just have to kick him to the curb.

His hackles go up the minute you interact with another male.

Whether it’s your longtime colleague or your best guy friend from high school, your boyfriend loses his mind whenever you talk to another man. Suddenly it’s like he’s some wild ape in the forest, puffing up his chest and standing with his arm around you a little too tight to show the world that you’re his. It’s not cool – in fact, it’s kinda gross. Make sure you point out that you’re with him, not these other guys, and that should be enough for him. If it isn’t, that’s his problem.

Every time you go out with your friends, he won’t leave you alone.
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You go out to the bar with your girls just to dance, have a few drinks, and unwind after a long week at work… and yet somehow your boyfriend still finds a reason to text you 900 times that night. Whether he’s telling you a pointless story about something the cat did or asking if you’re “okay,” if you can’t go out without him being on your case, that’s one of the major signs of a possessive man. Let him know when you go out that you’ll be turning your phone off to concentrate on your BFFs instead of the screen you stare at all week. If he loses his cool, he’s gotta go.

He tries to control what you wear.
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He never wants you to go out with a short skirt or a revealing top, but he frames it because he’s just so concerned for your safety and wouldn’t want anything “bad” to happen to you. In reality, he’s trying to control what you wear because he’s afraid if you look too good you’ll get attention from other men, and he can’t cope with that. (And to be honest, he’s probably right – you’re hot!) Let him know he’s your partner, not your parent, and that you dress yourself. He thought you looked pretty damn good when you first met, didn’t he?

He wants to be your number one.
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Obviously the guy in your life is a priority, but you do have other things going on, just as you should. A possessive man expects you to drop everything to be all about him 24/7, and that’s not only unrealistic, it’s also incredibly toxic. Insist on continuing to have a full, complete life outside of your relationship. He can be part of it – and if he doesn’t want to, he’s free to go.

He’s all over your social media.
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Under every single post you put up, there’s your boyfriend with his heart emojis or some declarative statement about how he’s so glad you’re his. Boy, if he doesn’t chill out… It’s kinda hard to tell him that he doesn’t need to be all over you on social media, so maybe just hide his comments when they pop up if they get extra annoying. However, if it’s too over-the-top, you’ll have to tell him to relax.

While it’s great that he seems to care about you, what your boyfriend needs to remember is that showing signs of being a possessive man are completely unattractive and borderline dangerous. If he can’t get a hold on his insecurities and allow you the freedom to just be, the relationship is never going to last.

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How Long Should You Date Before Getting Engaged?

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While there’s no one singular timeline that works for every relationship, it’s natural to want to hit certain milestones, especially if you’re getting into your late 20s or even 30s. You don’t want to rush things or make bad decisions in love, but you also don’t want to rest on your laurels and miss the boat on some of the bigger “accomplishments” you’re told to want by society. So how long should you date before getting engaged and then married? Well, that all depends.

Do you even want to get married?

It might seem like a reasonable assumption that all long-term couples are eventually going to want to lock things down by saying “I do,” but that’s certainly not the case anymore. Many couples are happy to just be together and don’t believe that a piece of paper solidifies their relationship in any way. Before you even consider about the right time to get married, figure out if you want to do it at all or if eternally dating is your preferred mode.

Do you know each other inside and out?
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It goes without saying that you have no business thinking of marrying someone until you truly know them. The honeymoon period and even the months proceeding will show you your partner in the best possible light. It takes more time together to truly get to know one another’s faults, downfalls, and idiosyncrasies and decide if they’re compatible with your life and what you can deal with. Dating is a time to learn this knowledge – don’t get engaged until you have it.

The average is one to three years.
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If you do feel like tying the knot is something you want in your future, a “reasonable” amount of time, according to clinical sexologist and relationship expert Dawn Michael, Ph.D., is between one and three years. However, she’s quick to note that “each couple is different depending on age and circumstances,” so this time frame may not work for you, and that’s okay!

The more time you’re together before marriage, the better your prospects.
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A study by Emory University scientists discovered that couples who were dating for at least three years before getting engaged were 39% less likely to get divorced than those who popped the question in the first year. That makes perfect sense!

At the end of the day, you have to do what’s right for you.
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If you and your partner decide you want to get married, you’ll intrinsically know when it’s the right time. There’s no rush either – if you’re going to spend the rest of your life together, you have plenty of time to plan your wedding. For now, just enjoy the process.

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A Guy Shares 12 Things You Should Never Text Him

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For better or worse, texting is a huge part of relationships nowadays. In fact, it can even make or break a relationship, especially in the early stages. That makes texting a critical skill for single women (and men) looking for a relationship. You want to avoid saying the wrong things, so you’re better off never sending a guy these texts.

Messages with countless pics

I get it, taking pictures of yourself with your fun is easy and fun. On the surface, it also makes sense to send pictures of yourself to a guy to help pique his interest. But there’s a limit to how many pics a guy will tolerate. Unless all of the pics you send him are super sexy and guaranteed to grab his attention, limit the amount you send over to keep him wanting more.

“I’m bored, what’s up?”
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This might seem like an easy way to jumpstart a text conversation, but it’s not exactly endearing. You want a guy to think that you’re excited to talk to him rather than using him as a last resort because you have nothing better to do. If you want to start a text convo with a guy, start it with something interesting. Wouldn’t you want the same?

“Where are you?”
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This text definitely screams clingy and way too involved, especially if it’s early in the relationship. Unless you’re in a stable relationship or you’re supposed to meet him and he’s running seriously late, there’s no reason to ever send this text. He’ll immediately think that you’re needy and looking to infringe on his freedom.

“What are we?”
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Yes, this conversation needs to happen at some point, but you shouldn’t try to define your relationship over text. Honestly, if you text a guy this, you’re almost begging him to ghost you. Just wait until you’re hanging out with him and genuinely enjoying each other’s company to ask him where the conversation is going.

Nothing but emojis
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Some guys might be different, but most of us aren’t huge fans of emojis. If you really like them, feel free to slip them in every now and then. That being said, texts three or more emojis and no words aren’t going to fly with most guys. There’s a good chance he won’t know what you’re trying to say with those emojis, making him frustrated and less excited to pursue the relationship.

“I love you” (if you haven’t said it before).
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Of course, in a stable relationship, you should always text this to your partner. However, until you’ve said it in real life, you should never text this to a guy. I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain this too much, but nobody should be taking that step in a relationship via text.

A long, pointless story
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If you have an interesting story that you’re dying to share with a guy, don’t text it to him if it’s more than a sentence or two. Texts are meant to be quick and easy. Guys typically don’t want to feel like they’ve received a reading assignment the way they did in school. Just call or a guy or text him that you have a great story to share with him the next time you see him. It’ll avoid a long text and give him something to look forward to.

“Why do you even like me?”
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Honestly, this might be one of those cardinal sins in relationships. It’s something that you probably don’t want to say to him and you certainly shouldn’t text it to him. It just reeks of insecurity, which is a major turn-off. Plus, it’s such a negative statement that he might not even bother with a reply; he’ll just end the relationship right then and there.

“Are you getting my texts? Just checking.”
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If it’s taking a while for a guy to text you back, the last thing he wants is you checking on him. People are busy and can’t always get back to you as quickly as you’d like. Just trust that he’ll text you back when he’s ready. Even if he’s in the midst of ghosting you, asking him if he’s getting your texts isn’t going to change that.

“We need to talk.”
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Obviously, this can be a rather ominous statement, which is not what you want when texting a guy. If you “need” to talk to him, just ask him if he wants to get together. You can talk to him then or you can just call him and talk to him on the phone. Telling someone that you need to talk can be unnerving. Plus, if it’s something important, you probably don’t want to discuss it via text.

“I’m late!”
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Even if it’s true, this is news you want to deliver via text. At a minimum, it warrants a phone call, but it’s probably an issue that needs to be talked about face-to-face. Let’s face it, anyone is bound to have a strong reaction to this statement, so texting doesn’t do it justice.

“I see you.”
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If you see a guy out and about, don’t let him know by texting “I see you” if he wasn’t expecting to see you somewhere. It comes off stalkerish and a little creepy. Those are things you’d like to avoid when texting guys, so just walk up to him and say something like, “fancy seeing you here.” That’s usually a lot more charming than a creepy “I see you” text.

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