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Tired Of Swiping Tinder? 10 Ways To Meet Guys Without Using An App

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Are you tired of swiping left on Tinder (or Bumble, OkCupid, etc.) feeling like you’ve gone through all the possible matches and still coming up short? Online dating can be discouraging sometimes, and especially after the pandemic, we want to get back into society after sitting through Zoom meetings all day rather than sitting in front of our screens even longer. So how do you find potential dates out in the real world? Here are some suggestions for how you can meet new guys in your area without using dating apps.

Walk your dog.

If you have a canine friend, try taking them for walks around town or take them to the local dog park. Dogs are always a great conversation starter. People are more likely to stop and say hello to your gorgeous pupper, and if you want to, you can take this opportunity to make new friends.

Visit a church or synagogue with a thriving singles group.
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Are you a religious person or interested in learning new things about other people’s beliefs? Visit a local church, synagogue, or other place of worship. The key here is to hang around after the worship service and introduce yourself to people. You can look up different churches on Google to see if they have a group for singles (sometimes called adult professionals or young adults). If you show up and the church doesn’t have many singles at all, that’s okay! Just smile and try a different place next week.

Join an exercise class. 
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Everybody has to exercise (or at least they should!) and it’s a good way to meet new people. Remember, men and women tend to gravitate towards different classes. Usually, women are more likely to join classes like yoga and pilates, while men tend to gravitate towards cycling and running. And as always, don’t be afraid to make friends with the women as well.

Attend local music events.
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This is one of the best ways to meet guys without dating apps. Does your city (or a city near you) host concerts in the park? Or maybe there’s a local choir or orchestra that is preparing to have their Christmas concerts? Music can connect a lot of people, but if you’re not musically inclined enough to join the orchestra, why not go to their concerts instead? Especially with a smaller event, you can meet new people fairly easily before the show begins. If you’re not sure where to start with this, see if your local library has any information on upcoming musical performances in the area. You could also try searching Google for local music groups.

Take yourself on a date. 
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I know, I know – you’re trying to get away from the single life and you want to meet guys so you won’t have to take yourself out to dinner anymore. Hear me out. Men are less likely to talk to you if you’re surrounded by a group of friends (and vice versa, you probably wouldn’t approach a table full of guys you’ve never met). It’s easier to approach someone when they’re alone and they look content in their surroundings, so don’t spend the whole time on your phone. Look up and admire the scenery.

Sign up for a cooking class or a wine tasting.
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The great thing about cooking classes is that you get to learn some new skills, meet some new people, and eat an amazing home-cooked meal (unless you burned your food). All jokes aside, cooking classes are a really fun experience because they’re often lively and full of cool people. If you’re into something a little more sophisticated, you could also go to a wine tasting. It might be a totally different crowd, depending on where you live and how fancy the wine tasting is.

Wait in line.
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Hey, it’s not very glamorous, but if you strike up a conversation with the person in front of you at the grocery store line, it can be a good way to start meeting other locals. Try commenting on something in their cart, or if they have a sports jersey on. The good thing about this trick is that since you’re both waiting in line, people will assume you’re just killing time, and they’re more likely to answer.

Volunteer in your community. 
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This might not work with all charities, but I’ve known people who had great success with meeting someone at a volunteer event. Go with a charity that you’re interested in, such as your local animal shelter or Habitat for Humanity, and get to work. When you work alongside other people, it can be so much easier to strike up a conversation. Plus, you’ll know at least one of his interests– if he’s volunteering, you know that to some degree, he’s a caring person. While you shouldn’t do charity work to meet guys, it’s just an added bonus that gets you off dating apps and into the real world.

Attend a fundraiser gala. 
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Fundraiser galas are not for everyone, and due to COVID, most organizations won’t be hosting galas for a while. However, when you find a charity or organization that you like and they host a fundraiser gala, this is an opportunity to meet some of the more sophisticated crowd. If you’re in your mid to late thirties and you’re looking for someone who’s a bit more elegant, fundraising galas might be the perfect place for you. They will cost money (obviously), but if you use the opportunity wisely, it is totally worth it. Plus, you already know what the money is going towards.

Ask your friends.
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Let your friends know that you’re interested in dating again and ask them to tell their other friends. If they do it right, you might be able to find a friend of a friend of a friend who’s single and interested! You never know, so go ahead and ask. And if you find someone through a friend, you’ll have at least one person that you know in common, which can be a good conversation starter. (“So, how do you know Emma?”) Or, if your friends don’t know any single guys, you can agree to start looking together. Sometimes, it can be helpful to have a wingwoman.

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Doe He Think He Owns You? Signs Of A Possessive Man And How To Fix It

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A relationship is supposed to be a union of two equals, and that definitely ain’t happening if your boyfriend thinks he’s your boss instead of your partner. When you’re dealing with a possessive man, you not only feel like you’re constantly under his thumb but you might even worry for your safety if his controlling ways were to go too far. Here are a few signs he thinks he owns you and how you can put a stop to them ASAP. If that doesn’t work, you’ll just have to kick him to the curb.

His hackles go up the minute you interact with another male.

Whether it’s your longtime colleague or your best guy friend from high school, your boyfriend loses his mind whenever you talk to another man. Suddenly it’s like he’s some wild ape in the forest, puffing up his chest and standing with his arm around you a little too tight to show the world that you’re his. It’s not cool – in fact, it’s kinda gross. Make sure you point out that you’re with him, not these other guys, and that should be enough for him. If it isn’t, that’s his problem.

Every time you go out with your friends, he won’t leave you alone.
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You go out to the bar with your girls just to dance, have a few drinks, and unwind after a long week at work… and yet somehow your boyfriend still finds a reason to text you 900 times that night. Whether he’s telling you a pointless story about something the cat did or asking if you’re “okay,” if you can’t go out without him being on your case, that’s one of the major signs of a possessive man. Let him know when you go out that you’ll be turning your phone off to concentrate on your BFFs instead of the screen you stare at all week. If he loses his cool, he’s gotta go.

He tries to control what you wear.
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He never wants you to go out with a short skirt or a revealing top, but he frames it because he’s just so concerned for your safety and wouldn’t want anything “bad” to happen to you. In reality, he’s trying to control what you wear because he’s afraid if you look too good you’ll get attention from other men, and he can’t cope with that. (And to be honest, he’s probably right – you’re hot!) Let him know he’s your partner, not your parent, and that you dress yourself. He thought you looked pretty damn good when you first met, didn’t he?

He wants to be your number one.
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Obviously the guy in your life is a priority, but you do have other things going on, just as you should. A possessive man expects you to drop everything to be all about him 24/7, and that’s not only unrealistic, it’s also incredibly toxic. Insist on continuing to have a full, complete life outside of your relationship. He can be part of it – and if he doesn’t want to, he’s free to go.

He’s all over your social media.
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Under every single post you put up, there’s your boyfriend with his heart emojis or some declarative statement about how he’s so glad you’re his. Boy, if he doesn’t chill out… It’s kinda hard to tell him that he doesn’t need to be all over you on social media, so maybe just hide his comments when they pop up if they get extra annoying. However, if it’s too over-the-top, you’ll have to tell him to relax.

While it’s great that he seems to care about you, what your boyfriend needs to remember is that showing signs of being a possessive man are completely unattractive and borderline dangerous. If he can’t get a hold on his insecurities and allow you the freedom to just be, the relationship is never going to last.

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How Long Should You Date Before Getting Engaged?

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While there’s no one singular timeline that works for every relationship, it’s natural to want to hit certain milestones, especially if you’re getting into your late 20s or even 30s. You don’t want to rush things or make bad decisions in love, but you also don’t want to rest on your laurels and miss the boat on some of the bigger “accomplishments” you’re told to want by society. So how long should you date before getting engaged and then married? Well, that all depends.

Do you even want to get married?

It might seem like a reasonable assumption that all long-term couples are eventually going to want to lock things down by saying “I do,” but that’s certainly not the case anymore. Many couples are happy to just be together and don’t believe that a piece of paper solidifies their relationship in any way. Before you even consider about the right time to get married, figure out if you want to do it at all or if eternally dating is your preferred mode.

Do you know each other inside and out?
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It goes without saying that you have no business thinking of marrying someone until you truly know them. The honeymoon period and even the months proceeding will show you your partner in the best possible light. It takes more time together to truly get to know one another’s faults, downfalls, and idiosyncrasies and decide if they’re compatible with your life and what you can deal with. Dating is a time to learn this knowledge – don’t get engaged until you have it.

The average is one to three years.
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If you do feel like tying the knot is something you want in your future, a “reasonable” amount of time, according to clinical sexologist and relationship expert Dawn Michael, Ph.D., is between one and three years. However, she’s quick to note that “each couple is different depending on age and circumstances,” so this time frame may not work for you, and that’s okay!

The more time you’re together before marriage, the better your prospects.
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A study by Emory University scientists discovered that couples who were dating for at least three years before getting engaged were 39% less likely to get divorced than those who popped the question in the first year. That makes perfect sense!

At the end of the day, you have to do what’s right for you.
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If you and your partner decide you want to get married, you’ll intrinsically know when it’s the right time. There’s no rush either – if you’re going to spend the rest of your life together, you have plenty of time to plan your wedding. For now, just enjoy the process.

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A Guy Shares 12 Things You Should Never Text Him

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For better or worse, texting is a huge part of relationships nowadays. In fact, it can even make or break a relationship, especially in the early stages. That makes texting a critical skill for single women (and men) looking for a relationship. You want to avoid saying the wrong things, so you’re better off never sending a guy these texts.

Messages with countless pics

I get it, taking pictures of yourself with your fun is easy and fun. On the surface, it also makes sense to send pictures of yourself to a guy to help pique his interest. But there’s a limit to how many pics a guy will tolerate. Unless all of the pics you send him are super sexy and guaranteed to grab his attention, limit the amount you send over to keep him wanting more.

“I’m bored, what’s up?”
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This might seem like an easy way to jumpstart a text conversation, but it’s not exactly endearing. You want a guy to think that you’re excited to talk to him rather than using him as a last resort because you have nothing better to do. If you want to start a text convo with a guy, start it with something interesting. Wouldn’t you want the same?

“Where are you?”
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This text definitely screams clingy and way too involved, especially if it’s early in the relationship. Unless you’re in a stable relationship or you’re supposed to meet him and he’s running seriously late, there’s no reason to ever send this text. He’ll immediately think that you’re needy and looking to infringe on his freedom.

“What are we?”
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Yes, this conversation needs to happen at some point, but you shouldn’t try to define your relationship over text. Honestly, if you text a guy this, you’re almost begging him to ghost you. Just wait until you’re hanging out with him and genuinely enjoying each other’s company to ask him where the conversation is going.

Nothing but emojis
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Some guys might be different, but most of us aren’t huge fans of emojis. If you really like them, feel free to slip them in every now and then. That being said, texts three or more emojis and no words aren’t going to fly with most guys. There’s a good chance he won’t know what you’re trying to say with those emojis, making him frustrated and less excited to pursue the relationship.

“I love you” (if you haven’t said it before).
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Of course, in a stable relationship, you should always text this to your partner. However, until you’ve said it in real life, you should never text this to a guy. I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain this too much, but nobody should be taking that step in a relationship via text.

A long, pointless story
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If you have an interesting story that you’re dying to share with a guy, don’t text it to him if it’s more than a sentence or two. Texts are meant to be quick and easy. Guys typically don’t want to feel like they’ve received a reading assignment the way they did in school. Just call or a guy or text him that you have a great story to share with him the next time you see him. It’ll avoid a long text and give him something to look forward to.

“Why do you even like me?”
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Honestly, this might be one of those cardinal sins in relationships. It’s something that you probably don’t want to say to him and you certainly shouldn’t text it to him. It just reeks of insecurity, which is a major turn-off. Plus, it’s such a negative statement that he might not even bother with a reply; he’ll just end the relationship right then and there.

“Are you getting my texts? Just checking.”
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If it’s taking a while for a guy to text you back, the last thing he wants is you checking on him. People are busy and can’t always get back to you as quickly as you’d like. Just trust that he’ll text you back when he’s ready. Even if he’s in the midst of ghosting you, asking him if he’s getting your texts isn’t going to change that.

“We need to talk.”
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Obviously, this can be a rather ominous statement, which is not what you want when texting a guy. If you “need” to talk to him, just ask him if he wants to get together. You can talk to him then or you can just call him and talk to him on the phone. Telling someone that you need to talk can be unnerving. Plus, if it’s something important, you probably don’t want to discuss it via text.

“I’m late!”
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Even if it’s true, this is news you want to deliver via text. At a minimum, it warrants a phone call, but it’s probably an issue that needs to be talked about face-to-face. Let’s face it, anyone is bound to have a strong reaction to this statement, so texting doesn’t do it justice.

“I see you.”
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If you see a guy out and about, don’t let him know by texting “I see you” if he wasn’t expecting to see you somewhere. It comes off stalkerish and a little creepy. Those are things you’d like to avoid when texting guys, so just walk up to him and say something like, “fancy seeing you here.” That’s usually a lot more charming than a creepy “I see you” text.

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