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Signs He Thinks You’re “The One” For Him, According To A Guy

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In a perfect world, your guy would tell you exactly what he’s thinking all of the time, for better or worse. However, this is not a perfect world and most guys are reluctant to share their true feelings with anyone, let alone their partners. Even when he’s fond of you and thinks you’re the one for him, he won’t always come out and say it. To be fair, some guys don’t always recognize that they feel this way right away. Luckily, his actions never lie. Here are some signs to watch out for.

He’s attentive to your needs.

All good partners should be attentive to the other person’s needs, but when guys are serious about someone, they take this to a whole new level. They pay close enough attention to you to understand your needs, your moods, and what you want from them. Even good boyfriends aren’t necessarily at that level. If your boyfriend thinks that you could be his forever person, he’ll be extra attentive and do all of the little things that show how much he cares.

He shares his feelings.
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As mentioned, you may not always get the full story when it comes to a guy sharing how he feels, but one who’s serious will be a little more willing to open up in this way. To be fair, it’ll sometimes be via actions rather than words. However, he’ll have no problem finding some way to let you know how much he cares about you. In other words, there will be no games and you’ll never be left wondering where you stand with him.

You’re always his plus-one.
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If there is any special event going on, especially involving his friends or family, you’re always invited. You don’t have to ask or wonder because he’ll make it clear that he always wants you around. This is a clear sign that you’re fully entrenched in his life and that you will be for a long time to come. Deep down, he knows that you’re there to stay, and so he wants you involved in every aspect of his life.

He tells you everything.
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You know that you’re the one for him when he trusts you enough to open up. You may have noticed that this isn’t easy for most guys. That means that when he does it, it’s a big deal. This is because he trusts you, and if you have that trust, he’ll have no problem staying with you for a long time. In other words, the more he opens up, the closer you are to becoming “the one.”

He plans for the future.
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This is undoubtedly one of the biggest signs he thinks you’re the one for him. I’m not talking about a special date in a few weeks or even a vacation in a couple of months but more long-term. When he talks about his future and puts you in it, he’s at least considered you being “the one.” Any type of mention of the two of you having a life together in the distant future is a sign that he’s imagined what that would be like and is at least open to the possibility.

He always wants to be around you.
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It’s not always about going on romantic dates or doing things that you know he likes. Sometimes the key to seeing if a guy is serious about you is him just being happy to do mundane things with you around. If you think about it, you have to be comfortable with this to be happy in a long-term relationship. Sometimes a quiet evening at home during nothing special can tell you if he’s truly happy with you and thinks of you as “the one.”

He supports your goals and ambitions.
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Most of us have goals or ambitions that are more long-term than short-term. How a guy feels about these can tell you a lot. If he’s supportive of them and wants to be around you to help, that says a lot. Obviously, it means that he can envision himself with you long-term. It also means that he’s putting you first. Most guys don’t do this unless they think that you might be “the one.”

He sticks around during rough times.
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You can always tell a lot about how a guy views a relationship by how he reacts when things aren’t going that well. Some will start to doubt the relationship or they’ll use it as a chance to run away from it. But if he tries to solve the problem and work through it rather than run away, you know he’s serious about you. He won’t be so quick to give up if he thinks you might be “the one.” We all know there will be bumps along the way, and you can tell a lot by how a guy reacts in those moments. If you’re looking for signs he thinks you’re the one, this is a biggie.

He’s there when you need him.
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Perhaps more than anything, this is what people need in a long-term partner. If you’re “the one,” a guy will always be there when you need him. In fact, he’ll want to be there when you need him. Not all guys are intent on being your support system or a shoulder to cry on if they aren’t convinced that you’re right for them.

He says “we.”
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It’s one little word but it means so much. A lot of guys are mostly focused on themselves. It takes a long time until they get to the point of thinking about other people first or thinking about themselves as being part of a couple. By the time this happens, most guys assume that they’ve found “the one.” If you notice that a guy is referring to the two of you as “we” on a regular basis, it should be clear what he’s thinking.

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Signs He Never Loved You And How To Get Over it

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There’s nothing more brutal than realizing a guy you invested time, energy, and so much of your heart into never loved you at all. You want to believe that he did care, and maybe part of him did a bit, but if any of these signs are true about your relationship, the brutal truth is that his feelings for you were never that serious.

He had a new girlfriend within a few days of your breakup.

Everyone gets over breakups in their own time, and there’s no one schedule that’s right. However, if you only broke up a few weeks or even a few days ago and he’s already moved onto someone else, that’s one of the biggest signs that he never loved you. If he did, he’d be heartbroken and uninterested in anyone else at the moment. There’s also the possibility that she was already in the picture before your relationship even ended…

He treated you like his mother rather than his partner.
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If your ex-boyfriend treated you more like the hired help than he did his girlfriend, consider that one of the most glaring signs that he never loved you. If he did, he would have worked to ensure you had an equal partnership rather than relying on you to fulfill all the duties his mother used to do. You were his partner, not his butler or his parent.

He never made you a priority in his life.
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When you’re in a relationship with someone, they should be high on your list of priorities. However, that wasn’t the case for him. It seemed like absolutely everything came before you – his job, his friends, his dog, his video games, his love of pizza… For some reason, you just never really factored in. He fit you in when there was nothing else taking his attention rather than ensuring you were prioritized.

He always made plans without considering you.
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It’s safe to say he never loved you if he made plans, whether for next weekend or three years in the future, without so much as considering how they would affect you or how you would feel about them. Maybe he accepted a job in another city or decided to go on a two-week vacation with the boys, all without running it by you first. It’s not that you would have stopped him, but one of the biggest signs of disrespect is a partner who totally does whatever he wants without so much as thinking of you.

He was only ever affectionate during sex.
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If he only ever kissed you or held you close while you were having sex or in the moments leading up to it, he couldn’t make his feelings (or lack thereof) more clear. Intimacy isn’t just about sex – it’s about physical and emotional closeness outside the bedroom too.

He never put in the same amount of effort, if any.
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You put a lot of effort into your relationship and your ex-boyfriend, trying to make sure he was happy, well cared for, and loved. Sadly, he didn’t put in as much effort… or any effort at all. That’s because he never loved you, as sad as that is to realize and accept.

He never compromised – it was his way or the highway.
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Part of being in a loving, mutually respectful relationship is the willingness to compromise. You can’t always have your own way and you shouldn’t want to. If your ex-boyfriend always insisted on doing things his way and threw a fit or threatened to break up with you if you pushed back, the signs couldn’t be clearer that he never loved you.

Realizing that someone you dated for a while didn’t care for you as much as or the way you deserved can be overwhelming, but don’t let it get you. Instead, cultivate your own self-love and focus on ensuring that when you love again, you receive that same love in return. You’re worth it.

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How To Be The Best Girlfriend He’ll Ever Have

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I’m not saying you’re a bad partner – I’m sure you’re not. However, if you want to be the best girlfriend he’s ever had, you’re going to have to step up your game. Doing these things doesn’t necessarily require much extra effort if you’re already pretty attentive to your boyfriend’s needs. In fact, you’re probably already doing many of them anyway. That being said, a woman who does these things is guaranteed to be unforgettable in her partner’s mind pretty much forever.

Do your part to keep the spark.

The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever and that’s a good thing. However, part of keeping your relationship strong and thriving is by maintaining the spark. Contrary to popular belief, this isn’t the guy’s job. Both of you should be putting in equal effort to keep the passion and romance alive between you. Sure, real life takes over sometimes, but make sure you’re doing your bit by planning dates, initiating sex, and showing your partner physical affection.

Listen to him.
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Don’t immediately jump down his throat when he does something that you don’t understand or don’t like. Don’t automatically assume the worst of him or point the finger at him when something goes wrong. Instead, actually listen to him. Just zip your lips, sit back, and let him speak. You know how important it is for you to feel heard, so offer him the same courtesy.

Validate even his craziest feelings or ideas.
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Maybe you and your boyfriend are two totally different people, and that’s cool. However, that means sometimes he might have different desires, goals, or viewpoints than you and they’re so out there that you just don’t get them. Never invalidate his feelings or ideas. Instead, make sure he knows that your relationship is a safe space to share them and that even if you don’t agree or understand them, you support his right to them nonetheless.

Give him space.
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Most guys need more space than women in relationships and that can be hard to deal with, especially if you’d be cool hanging out 24/7. Being the best girlfriend he’s ever had or ever will have means backing off a bit and giving him a little room to breathe away from you. Whether it’s going out with his friends or sitting in front of the TV on his PS5 for hours, let him be free to do that without making him feel guilty or pressured to be with you instead.

Have a life outside of your relationship.
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This is as much for you as it is for him. Your relationship should never be your entire life. It’s important that you don’t need your boyfriend but you simply want him to make your already complete life even better. Make sure you’re still hanging out with your friends, seeing your family, pursuing your goals and hobbies, and spending time on self-care. Your relationship will be better for it.

Encourage him to be his best self but never push him to change.
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The best girlfriend he’s ever had is always going to be the one who encourages him to be the best version of himself but doesn’t pressure him or manipulate him into changing. You should be his biggest cheerleader, not a puppet master desperately trying to pull the strings of his life.

Love him where he’s at.
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Don’t ever get with a guy because of his potential because you’ll end up feeling disappointed and he’ll end up resenting you. Instead, the best girlfriend knows that she needs to love her partner where he’s at right now, flaws and all. After all, it’s our imperfections that make us endearingly human, don’t you think?

Make him laugh. Simple but effective.
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Sometimes life is going to throw some real curveballs your way and the only way you’re going to get through it is by learning how to laugh at yourselves, each other, and the the terrible condition of life sometimes. Find little ways to bring a smile to his face and he’ll love you all the more efor it.

Don’t take him for granted.
No one likes to feel unappreciated, and that goes for men too. Never simply expect him to do things for you just because he always has. Recognize the small efforts he makes on a daily basis to make your life a better, easier place and show appreciation for it.

Show him you love him as well as telling him.
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You should by all means vocalize your love for your boyfriend, but you should show it as well. How do you do that? Well, by doing all the things listed above. They’ll undoubtedly make you the best girlfriend ever.

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Why Smart Women Are Much More Likely To Be Single

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Have you ever noticed that smart women tend to stay single way longer than the general population? It seems weird since theoretically, our intelligence should help us find love more easily. However, the truth is that being brainy can work against us in love and relationships in many ways. Here’s why we roll solo much more often.

We’re great judges of character.

Smart women are pretty good at reading people, which protects us from a ton of bad situations. Once we recognize a red flag from a guy or he exhibits some kind of problematic viewpoint or behavior, we’re outta there. Many of us are single much longer than we’d like to be because we never fall for the fakeness that many guys put out when we first meet them. It’s a blessing and a curse!

Men consider our intelligence a turn-off.
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According to a study cited by The Guardian, a woman’s marital prospects decrease by 40% for every 16-point rise in IQ. Shocking, right? But not quite as shocking as the fact that the exact opposite seems to be true for men. For every 16-point rise in a man’s IQ, he becomes 35% more desirable to women. And they say misogyny is dead.

We tend to prioritize career ambitions over relationships.
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Smart women tend to be ambitious. Maybe we want to write a book or start our own business, or maybe we want to become surgeons or professors. Whatever the goal is, we can be pretty single-minded when it comes to achieving it, meaning love and relationships often get moved to the back-burner. It’s not that we’re against love, just that we don’t prioritize it, making it harder to find (and keep when it does come along). Because of this, we tend to stay single much longer.

We don’t put up with BS.
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A study of 121 British participants found that smart women are seen as problematic in heterosexual relationships because their intelligence comes off as masculine, threatening, and undesirable. The same couldn’t be said for men, of course, but I suppose that’s because smart women won’t put up with men’s crap. We call out lies, BS, and bad behavior without hesitance, so of course that’s going to be “problematic” to a guy who thinks he’s going to get one over on us. Ugh, who wouldn’t prefer to be single?

We refuse to settle.
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At the end of the day, smart women stay single for as long as it takes to find someone who’s on our level and who wants to truly be an equal partner. We refuse to settle for anything less, and why should we? We know how much we have to offer as women and as partners, and we’ll wait until we find someone who’s worthy of that before we couple up.

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