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Does He Want To Date You Or Is He Just Trying To Get Laid?

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When you’re dating someone new, it can be hard to distinguish whether or not a guy is actually into you or just wants to sleep with you. For women, getting the cues wrong can lead to a lot of emotional stress — especially if you realized the “connection” you had was more of a ruse to get you in bed. Before you fall in love, here are some big red flags to be on the lookout for,

He seems to dismiss any boundaries.

And not just sexual boundaries — if you tell him you don’t like to drive in the city but he states you need to “get over it” to meet up at a restaurant he likes, that’s a complete betrayal. Getting out of your comfort zone is important sometimes, but you should never feel forced to do something you feel uncomfortable with. If he keeps pushing things, or you start fearing what his reaction will be if you say no, it’s a huge sign that you need to call it quits. Your feelings matter.

He’s not afraid to point out other attractive women.
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Some guys are just completely immature and don’t realize what they’re doing, but others can play mind games. By pointing out other women who are attractive, he’s trying to make you jealous and perhaps a little self-conscious. He’s also showing you that physical attraction is a big deal to him. This isn’t the kind of guy who’s ready to settle down and have kids — he’s ready to meet women and sleep around. Maybe he’ll be ready to settle down for a real relationship someday, but not right now.

He compliments you only on physical attributes.
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A guy who’s looking to get laid isn’t going to tell you that he likes your sense of humor, or your willingness to drop everything to help a friend or family member out. The traits they’ll focus on are all physical — how your butt and chest look, the color of your eyes, and your smile are big ones. He might quietly like your ability to tell a joke, but he won’t say that, since he knows that’s a good trait for the person he’ll eventually marry.

He only calls you at odd times.
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And, the requests seem to be somewhat last minute. Expect him to call you at 8:30 to ask you out that night. That likely means that you weren’t the first plan. Instead, something else fell through and he figured you might be down to have some fun tonight. Someone who’s looking to date you will ask about your schedule ahead of time and might have some follow-up texts to confirm.

His communication with you got flirty very quickly.
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You have to remember that a lot of guys have the same nerves over asking someone out that girls do. And usually, nerves mean that feelings are building. But if this guy suddenly hits you up with sexual or flirty messages, he’s showcasing that he’s not looking to get to know you outside of the bedroom. Those messages show he’s shooting his shot, and likely won’t get too bummed out if you don’t reciprocate because eventually, he knows someone will take the bait.

You get shut down if you ever mention anything more “serious”.
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It’s not him being nervous or “not ready.” It’s the sad truth,  but no guy will ever tell you that he’s “not ready to date you” if he’s actually interested in you. That’s just a soft cushion used to either spare your feelings or keep you on the line for a hookup later down the road. Sure, sometimes the timing may be wrong. But if he’s shuddering at the thought of taking you somewhere in public, he has no interest in being your boyfriend.

You’ve never spent the night at his place.
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If you’re already having sex, you might find it strange that he rushes you out right after. That usually means that you’re either the “other woman,” or he’s gotten everything he wants out of you for the day. Remember, you’re a person with feelings. That means you deserve to at least get breakfast before being shooed out of the house. If you’ve ever felt awkward leaving, take that as a sign this relationship is purely sexual.

He’s mentioned only wanting a casual relationship before.
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This is a huge red flag that many people don’t see, since, in their minds, they can “try to change him.” It’s important to know that when someone states their intentions, they mean them. If you’ve been trying to turn a fling into a relationship, you’re either going to get hurt now or in the near future. Believe what they say, and then ask yourself if you can be happy with that arrangement. If not, it’s time to call it quits.

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Why Intelligent Women Struggle To Find Longlasting Love

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Intelligence is one of the most attractive qualities you can have, but for those of us who possess a higher than average IQ or some pretty intense street smarts, that characteristic can work against us. Many of us find it much harder to meet someone with whom we connect on a deeper level and therefore we end up staying single much longer. Here’s why intelligent women struggle a bit more than average when it comes to love.

We want the real thing.

Intelligent women want real, long-lasting love. We don’t want fake, we don’t want temporary, and we don’t want to waste our time. We’re looking for a partner that respects us, prioritizes us, and who knows how to treat a woman. We’re not looking for people we have to train or fix. We have our own projects to do, and relationships shouldn’t be one of them.

We don’t fall for lies and bulls**t.
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Because intelligent women have heard every BS excuse and lie in the book, it’s pretty hard to get anything past us. We can spot a player a hundred miles away and we’re not going to fall for all the crap that a lot of guys try to pull when they’re not 100% into the relationship but don’t want to cut things off. Because of that, we’d rather wait for someone who’s actually capable of and interested in love than waste our time and energy.

We know better than to lower our standards.
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We have high (but totally reasonable) standards and expectations when it comes to the people we date and the relationships we’re in. If the person we’re seeing undermines those standards, ignores our boundaries, or simply isn’t interested in them either way, intelligent women have no problem walking away. We could never love someone who doesn’t respect us.

We find just as much fulfillment in being alone.
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Intelligent women want love, of course – we’re only human. However, we’re also really comfortable with our own company and legitimately enjoy spending time on our own. We know better than to believe the lie that we need a partner in order to live a happy, fulfilled life. Because of that, we’re not in as much of a hurry to jump into anything. A potential partner has to prove that they’re worth it.

We need someone who’s on our level.
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Yes, we’re well aware that we need to be on our partner’s level as well. Relationships are all about a partnership of equals, and intelligent women want intelligent men (or other intelligent women/people). If we’re coming from two different places, it’ll never work. We’re happy to hold out until we find what we’re looking for.

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How To Cope When You Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together

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There’s nothing worse than being head over heels in love with someone that you know you can’t be with. Whether one of you is already in a relationship or the timing simply isn’t right, it can be devastating to accept that it’s just not going to work out. However, that doesn’t mean it has to ruin your life. Here’s how to cope when you love each other but can’t be together.

Acknowledge and reflect on your feelings.

It’s important that you don’t bottle up your feelings or pretend like they don’t exist — that’s not going to help anyone. Acknowledge that you really love this person and that you’re upset that you can’t be together. Give yourself space to mourn your broken heart and reflect on how you feel about them and why it’s maybe better that things didn’t work out the way you might have hoped. Over time, this will help bring you clarity.

Find a way to make peace with the situation.
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This is easier said than done and perhaps is something you won’t be able to achieve until a bit further down the line, but it’s possible and important to strive for. It’s vital that you find a way to accept the reality of your situation with this person so that you can move on in your life instead of holding onto something that’s not meant for you.

Indulge in self-care.
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Just because you love each other but can’t be together doesn’t mean that you should let your love for yourself become neglected. As you reflect on your feelings and work on moving past them, it’s important to look after yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Make sure to feed your body nourishing foods, get a bit of movement on a daily basis, do a bit of meditation, hang out with people who make you feel good, etc. You deserve at least that.

Figure out if a friendship is possible.
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This is another step that may not be possible or appropriate right away (or ever). However, just because you can’t be in a romantic relationship with this person doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t be in one another’s lives. Not being together as lovers doesn’t have to prohibit you from being friends, particularly if you connected on more than just a romantic level. If you’re both up for it when the more intense feelings have faded, you could have a beautiful platonic relationship.

Open your heart to someone else when you’re ready.
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It’s going to take time to get over your feelings for the person you love but can’t be with, but eventually, you will. When that point comes, open yourself up to new love and enjoy being together in a situation that’s right. It may seem hard to fathom just yet, but I promise you when it comes along, it’ll be so worth it.

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Important Things A Guy Will Do If He Wants You In His Life

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When you hit it off with a guy and feel like you could have something real together, you want to know if he’s on the same page as you so that you’re not wasting any of your precious time and energy on someone who’s just not feeling it. When a guy wants you in his life, he’ll do some very important things to show you. Keep an eye out for these behaviors — if they’re there, that’s a very good sign.

He’ll be consistent.

A guy who wants you in his life isn’t going to pop in and out of it whenever he can be bothered. He’ll call or text when he says he will, show up when he makes plans with you, and act like he likes you consistently rather than playing you hot and cold. He won’t want to do anything that would jeopardize your relationship so he’ll behave accordingly.

He’ll make space for you.
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By “space” I mean literally and figuratively. He’ll be open, honest, and willing to let you in to get to know him even if that kind of vulnerability is scary, which is a pretty big move. However, he’ll also make physical space for you in his world, perhaps by not freaking out if you leave stuff at his place (if you’re that far along in your relationship) or even inviting you into his home instead of always wanting to come to yours.

He’ll make time for you.
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A guy who wants you in his life will always make time for you, no matter how busy he is or how much else has going on. That’s not to say that you should be his #1 priority and he should be available for you 24 hours a day, seven days a week. However, he’ll make sure he carves out quality time to spend with you so you can grow and maintain your bond and become a stronger couple.

He’ll treat you with respect.
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It goes without saying that you can’t be with someone who doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t have to agree with everything you say, do, or think to validate and accept you regardless. If this guy wants you in his life, he’ll have to understand that you are his equal and you’re a valuable human being as well as his partner.

He’ll be there for you.
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A good boyfriend is someone who’s there for you when the times are tough as well as when they’re fun. If a guy wants you in his life, he’ll make sure that he’s there as a vital part of your support system to uplift you, be a shoulder to cry on, and give you the backup you might need in a difficult situation. Better yet, he won’t even think twice about doing it – it’ll come naturally.

He’ll stop talking to other women.
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At the end of the day, there’s no reason for him to be active on dating apps or chatting to other women on social media if he wants to be with you. If he’s still playing the field, he’s clearly not serious about you and definitely not worth wasting any more time on. See ya later, buddy!

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