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Is it normal to visit your partner unannounced?




Sometimes when in a relationship, love birds get too comfortable dating each other that some basic ethics are ignored because it is assumed it’s okay because of the bond established.

One such behavior is visiting a partner unannounced, because it is assumed that they should have nothing to hide and privacy doesn’t exist in relationships.

But a netizen has advised against the practice, saying it could backfire. Using his own experience as an example, he claims he once was introduced as a tailor after visiting a partner unannounced, obviously he walked in on his partner with another man.

Another mentioned that ladies in committed relationships should make unannounced visits to their partner’s houses occasionally.

Obviously, what that implies is that cheating partners will likely become discovered before the relationship turns to a marriage.

Unannounced visits provide a slim chance of getting to know what a partner does behind your back. And if cheating is one of those things, you could get to know before it’s too late.

When I asked a few colleagues about their thoughts on this subject; one, a man, answers and says: “If you can’t visit your partner unexpectedly, who should you visit?”

And the other, a woman, adds that: “No way. I’d never do that. I don’t want to see anything that could possibly ruin my peace of mind. What you do not know will not kill you, please.”

Of course, walking in on another man or woman at your partner’s apartment, and in an obviously compromising state does not mean the relationship will end. Some people would rather continue with the demon they already know rather than go out to seek for an angel they may or may never find.

One sub-theme of this conversation on unannounced visits is the presence or absence of trust. When partners make these sudden visits on each other, there is an implication of a lack of trust and the partner on whom the surprise is sprung may [rightly] feel a little awkward, knowing that the other partner might have been hoping to find them involved in something unsavoury.

Absolutely not. Dating and being in a relationship is an inherently risky game. Anything can happen. The most angelic woman could be the worst of the lot and the sweetest man could actually be a demon masking as a sweet boy.

Experience has taught that it is a wise thing to do every act of due diligence before pledging your life to someone. You want to be sure, as much as possible, that the person you end up with is who you actually think they are.

So if unannounced visits are one of your partner’s ways of ascertaining your genuineness, then let them do it. If you have nothing to hide, they’ll find nothing and eventually, their curiosity will be satisfied.

Besides, like one of the respondents above said: if you cannot visit your partner unannounced, who should you then be visiting without prior information?


Dark knuckles: How to get rid of it with shea butter



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No matter how strong you are, dark knuckles have a way of messing with your self-confidence and the bad part of this is that it can’t be hidden. You might have tried several ways to get rid of your dark knuckles, but you can’t see any result. Do not panic! We got you covered.

The good news is that we have figured out a way to help you get rid of dark knuckles. Shea butter is the solution you’ve been seeking. Shea butter has properties that help even skin tone and moisturize the skin and will work well in reducing the darkness on your knuckles.

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The one word that has the power to change marriages



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Year after year, marriage becomes monotonous. Couples face each other doing the same things, whether it’s about making the same mistakes or arguing about that one issue every time.

And when marriages face an inevitable halt to their blissful married life, everything can start to go wrong. Blame games and misunderstandings can destroy a marriage within a few seconds.

After all, words hurt. But have you thought about what can change such a situation in marriages?

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9 valuable life skills men in their twenties must have




Life is so unpredictable that it’s imperative to know some of its secrets just so you can get through the twists and turns it has to offer.

Just because you’re out of college it doesn’t mean you have it all figured out. There are a lot of skills that you must possess to go through various life hacks and no school or education will teach you these skills, well not all of them at least.

Your biggest teacher will always remain ‘experience’ and what you learn from it will definitely change your life around.

In your twenties, you learn to recognise the ways of life and the knowledge stays on with you forever, since your twenties is when you start to define life and its purpose.

So here are some important life skills every twenty-something should master to become a better man as you grow older.

1. How To Be Honest

Honesty is crucial in your formative years as it helps you become the bigger person and you would need that kind of learning when you reach your thirties and forties. When you’re late to an appointment, it’s easy to pin the blame on traffic and other factors. Instead, start by apologising for being late in the first place and accept your mistake graciously. It’s something you have to learn in order to not risk your integrity.

2. How To Start An Interesting Conversation

Making or building a conversation is considered as a highly underrated skill. But it’s a great skill-set to enhance networking and confidence. If you dare to start up a conversation with a random person, you’ll probably end up with some great and helpful networking, a new friend and an insight into something important.

3. How To Communicate Effectively

It doesn’t matter what career path you’ve chosen for yourself but it matters how effectively you communicate through written word or verbosity. Most successful men ace the skill of communicating efficiently, and with much conviction.

4. How To Take Criticism

If it’s constructive and healthy criticism, it’s bound to help you in your growth. It’s absolutely alright to get feedback for something that will inevitably help you in your growth, in your formative years. In order to be successful in life, it’s important to take in all the necessary criticism that will help you. If the criticism is not helpful or counter-productive then it’s best to ignore it and not pay much heed to it.

5. How To Ask For What You Want

If you’re confident and assertive about what you want, you’ll always achieve it. But the question lies in how to ask for what you want, since it’s the most underutilised skill to be successful. The answer to that is courage and confidence. If you deserve a promotion or a raise or even an expectation from  someone, all you need to do is ask clearly and confidently about what you want.

6. How To Keep Promises

keeping promises is a way of showing respect towards other people. If you’ve made a commitment somewhere, don’t backtrack on it later. If you’ve told a friend you will be there for their birthday, show up. Keeping promises help you understand the concept of commitment and that’s where you gain most of the respect from people.

7. How To Be Resilient

If you strengthen your might to be resilient at an early age, there is nothing that can deter your spirit later in life. Resilience is the key towards withstanding any test in life. Your 20s are when you’re relatively free of responsibilities, unlike your 30s and 40s. So it’s a good time to test extremes and if you fail, bounce back up and show resilience.

8. How To Let Go Of Anger

There is a way to channelize your rage and frustration in a more positive manner than a negative one. You can use the anger towards channelizing a good amount of creativity. It’s a great tool to let go of anything negative. And if you learn how to do it at an earlier age, patience will come naturally to you, later in life.

9. How Face rejection

In your 20s you face a lot of things. New jobs, relationships and experiences and not all of them turn out to be as you expect them to. It’s absolutely okay to let go of some expectations and face rejection. It’s only then you learn to face what life has to offer. Life is not always kind and the sooner you learn that, the better you deal with it.

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