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How To Spot An Emotionally Unavailable Man And How To Handle Him

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If you’ve dated one too many guys who seem incapable of engaging in a mature, loving relationship and are sick and tired of wasting your time and energy on these dead-end connections, listen up. The only way to avoid getting yourself into these terrible situations is to spot the signs of an emotionally unavailable man before he ever has a chance to worm his way into your life. In case you’re not sure what to look for, here are a few hints.

He rarely shows affection.

An emotionally unavailable man won’t have much in the way of demonstrative affection to offer you. He might say that he’s just not the touchy-feely type or that he’s not into PDA as a way to disguise the truth, which is that he’s incapable of having a close connection with another human being in that way. That’s not to say he won’t have sex with you — his limitations seem to exclude getting between the sheets — but when it comes to more tender expressions like holding hands or cuddling, you get nada.

He never opens up or lets you in.
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You can’t get close to someone if they won’t allow you to do so. An emotionally unavailable man doesn’t want to take any chances of being hurt or looking stupid or whatever it is he’s worried about by actually letting his guard down and opening up to you. Unfortunately, there’s no way you can ever have a meaningful relationship with any long-lasting potential without that.

He has a serious fear of commitment. 
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Lots of guys have a fear of commitment, but generally speaking, they get to a particular point in life and/or meet a particular kind of woman that sorta kicks their butts into gear and helps them get over it. However, an emotionally unavailable man will avoid commitment like the plague well into his thirties, forties, and beyond because he doesn’t want the “baggage” (i.e. deep connection and responsibility) that comes with it. His loss!

He hasn’t had many real relationships in the past.
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If you’re dating a guy who hasn’t had many relationships in the past, you may just assume that he’s a late bloomer and that you’ve gotten lucky to find such a great single guy. Wrong! Chances are, he hasn’t had many relationships because he lacks the emotional depth (or the willingness to go there) to start and keep them going. It’s sad really.

He often comes off as aloof or uncaring.
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An emotionally unavailable man often seems like he doesn’t have a care in the world. He can be cold, aloof, and seemingly unfeeling because he shuts off and compartmentalizes the sides of him that would make him look “weak” or require him to be vulnerable in any way.

He rarely makes time for you.
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You might think that availability to go on dates or just hang out at home would have nothing to do with his ability to connect on a deeper level, but that’s not the case. A lack of emotional availability means that he also lacks the ability to grasp the fundamentals of what make a strong, healthy relationship. You fit into his schedule when he can be bothered. Other than that, you’re on your own.

He bails when things get serious.
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An emotionally unavailable guy will always hightail it out of there at the first available opportunity when things get too serious. Whether you have certain stresses and problems that mean you need to rely on him or you’re having issues between the two of you, he’s outta there. Don’t waste your time on a guy like this.

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The Home Alone House Is Available To Rent On Airbnb, Ya Filthy Animals

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There are a million and one Christmas movies out there, but not one of them compares to the greatness that is Home Alone. It’s a total classic and still holds up more than 30 years later. If you love it just as much as me, you might be excited to know that the actual house used in the filming of the movie is available to rent on Airbnb.

The house is in Winnetka, Illinois. In Home Alone, the McAllister family lives in Chicago. The actual house is located in Winnetka, about 25 minutes away from the city, so you can do some sightseeing while you’re there.

Buzz is the one who listed the house. Hilariously, the Airbnb listing that would allow visitors to stay at the Home Alone house for one night only was apparently placed by Buzz McAllister, that little rascal. Many Christmases ago, the McCallisters went to Paris — well, most of us,” Buzz writes in the listing. “Though we’re older and wiser now (I’ve even got my own security firm), we’re never too old for holiday hijinks. So, while we’re away on vacation (all of us, this time), I’m inviting one crew of mischief-makers to let their inner eight-year-olds run free in my childhood home on Dec. 12.”

Your stay comes with all kinds of added extras to make it authentic. Not only will you be greeted to a “cozy holiday scene with twinkling lights and a perfectly trimmed tree” but you’ll also be treated to a “candlelit dinner of microwavable Kraft Macaroni & Cheese.” Oh, and Axl, his pet tarantula, will apparently also be hanging out (though hopefully in a cage).

The house seems to be a lot smaller than it was in the movie. I don’t know about you, but the Home Alone house always seemed like a mansion to me. Add to that the fact that the McAllisters seemed to host their entire family and it would have to be big, right? However, the listing only mentions two bedrooms and one and a half bathrooms, which is kind of weird. Still, that’s plenty of space for me!

You’ll have to be quick if you want to stay there. The house will open for booking on December 7 and chances are, the slots will fill up fast.

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Greta Thunberg ‘Needs A Smacked Bottom’ According To Jeremy Clarkson

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Greta Thunberg is an environmental activist who isn’t shy about calling the bigwigs out on their BS. She’s outspoken, direct, and tells it like it is. Of course, that offends many people, particularly men with fragile egos, who feel the need to try and belittle her intelligence and infantilize her to distract from her actual message (which makes a whole lot of sense). Case in point? Jeremy Clarkson, best known for being the host of Top Gear and a Grade-A twat, has claimed that Thunberg “needs a smacked bottom” for… standing up for what’s right?

Thunberg makes some really good points. She’s been speaking out on the measures needed to truly save the environment for years, but it was her recent protest outside the COP26 in Glasgow, Scotland that really got Clarkson’s goat. In an interview with The Times, Clarkson said that he doesn’t understand the “Greta Thunberg phenomenon” and that she “needs a smacked bottom.” Uh, gross.

Apparently, he agrees with Thunberg’s stance. Thunberg called for “immediate drastic annual emission cuts” at COP26 and criticized the event as a “two-week-long celebration of business as usual and blah, blah, blah” used to “create loopholes to benefit themselves.” She’s completely right about that, and Clarkson himself admits that. However, he took issue with the fact that she protested at all, calling it “pointless.”

I guess we should all just accept that the planet is destroyed and get on with it? At least according to Clarkson. “I simply don’t get the Thunberg phenomenon. She has no knowledge of how the world works, no manners and no letters after her name because instead of going to school, she’s been busy sailing round the world so she can be mardy and abusive to grownups,” he said.

The idea that standard school = education is ridiculous. Clarkson is trying to delegitimize everything Thunberg is saying by insisting that the only way she could know what she’s talking about is… going to high school. Where environmental science isn’t particularly taught, certainly not on a deep level. See how he’s earned that Grade-A twat label?

Why is he talking about Thunberg’s “bottom” anyway? This is perhaps the biggest issue of all: why is a 61-year-old man talking about spanking an 18-year-old woman’s “bottom” as, I don’t know, punishment (???) for speaking out about climate change? “What she needs is a smacked bottom. Here’s a tip, Greta: lecturing me on what needs to be done is pointless. It’d be like standing in my bedroom every morning ordering me to wear clothes. I know already,” he said.

Clarkson decided to throw in some good ol’ xenophobia as well. Not one to be outdone by creepy comments alone, he then suggested Thunberg should turn her ire towards China, completely ignoring the fact that Thunberg regularly calls out ALL world leaders for not doing more about climate change. “What you should be doing instead is cycling to countries where people are perhaps less aware of what should be done. China for example. That I’d like to see,” he said. “Greta standing outside Zhongnanhai with her parka and her Glastonbury backpack and her microphone, lecturing the leaders about their policies on coal and trees and so on.”

He’s been facing understandable backlash about his comments. After the interview was published, people took to social media to express their very “WTF?” thoughts on Clarkson’s comments. “What is it about Greta Thunberg that makes all old guys get angry and defensive? Brilliant to see so many young people in Glasgow caring about this planet,” one person wrote. Another remarked: “There’s a creepy shivery dirty old man weirdness to Jeremy Clarkson’s attempt at humor this week in his rage at Greta Thunberg!”

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How To Flirt WIth A Guy Without Risking Embarassment

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Showing a guy you’re interested in him without making a fool of yourself is a delicate balance. You don’t want to come off as aloof or make him think you don’t care so that he doesn’t bother to pursue you, but you also don’t want to fall all over him when you’re not even sure if he’s into you. Here’s how to flirt with a guy and keep it as chill as possible while avoiding embarrassment altogether.

Keep it casual.

This is perhaps the most important advice when it comes to figuring out how to flirt with a guy. Many men are easily scared off in the beginning so you want to avoid coming on too strong. You can do that easily by just keeping it relaxed. Instead of asking him if he wants to go on a date with you because you’re single and looking for your future husband (lol, I know it’s true), why not just ask him if he feels like hanging out on Saturday night or going to the greenmarket with you on Sunday? The more relaxed your approach, the less stressful it’ll be for you.

Read the room.
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By this I mean you should feel him out to make sure flirting with him is even appropriate. If he’s a relative stranger, you probably want to make sure he’s actually single and open to dating before you start putting the moves on him. Pay attention to little details to make sure you have the all-clear before putting yourself out there.

Mirror his body language.
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A good way to flirt with a guy is by mirroring the same energy he’s giving you. If he’s a touchy-feely guy and you’re into physical touch as well, feel free to put your hand on his arm if he makes you laugh or lean in towards him. Mirroring his actions will let you know that what you’re doing is appropriate while also showing your interest. After all, if you weren’t feeling it, you’d probably avoid any kind of contact, right?

Focus on the things you have in common.
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If you both like some obscure band that most of your other fans haven’t heard of, connect on that! Tap into the unique things you connect on and really focus on that. When he sees that you’re into some of the more niche things that get him going, he’ll be way more likely to be into you (or at least be way more intrigued). It may seem like this isn’t going to get you a date at all, but it’s a great way to flirt with a guy, trust me.

Have confidence.
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At the end of the day, showing a guy you’re interested in him doesn’t have to be embarrassing even if he’s not feeling the same. How’s that, you ask? You should have confidence. Know that you’re a snack and that any guy would be lucky to have you. Feel confident in your interest in him as well as your ability to brush your shoulders off if he’s not feeling the same. With an attitude like that, you really can’t lose.

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