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Is He Interested In Me? How You Can Tell When A Guy Really Likes You

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Mixed signals, playful texts, late-night taco dinners… Is it potential love or just friendship? It’s impossible to figure out where you stand sometimes and to know whether or not a guy is interested in you. Before you spend any more time agonizing, pay attention to these signs that will let you know he’s into you as more than a friend.

He questions your relationship status.

Sometimes, guys won’t be as direct as to flat out ask, “Do you have a boyfriend?” If he does, great! That means he’s interested. If he doesn’t, he’ll indirectly ask or talk about being single. That’ll then be your cue to put his curiosity to rest.

He talks about his future plans.
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It’s hard not to question the status of where a budding friendship could go when he talks about the future. Don’t think he’s thinking of leaving you behind. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. He’s speculating where you fit into his plans. It’s a good idea to jump into these conversations so you can gauge if you’re both on the same page with important things.

He touches you.
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Now, now, not in a creepy, stay-clear-of-this-guy kind of way. It’s more subtle. Think of it more in a rom-com kind of way. A brush of the hand, a touch on the shoulder, hello and goodbye hugs. It’s his way of saying he’s attracted to you.

He wants to see you in broad daylight.
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Okay, get your mind out of the gutter; that’s not what we’re talking about here. There’s a big difference between a booty call and a real chance for a romantic (read: not a one-sided) relationship. If he only calls for a date on Friday nights…drop him. Hence, he’s only interested in one thing. A guy who’s interested wants to spend time with you during the day. That means hiking, morning coffee dates, taking a day trip. He wants your company more than what’s in your pants.

Your conversations are meaningful and constant.
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Guys aren’t always ones for small talk. But, if he’s interested, you’ll come to find he talks a lot. The best part is that he’ll put in the effort to make the first move often. That means you’ll wake up to good morning texts and he’ll initiate the topics. The convos between you two will be more than what you did that day and will move on to more serious territory.

He shows up when you’re sick.
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When you’re feeling unwell, expect him to want to help out. That could mean in the form of bringing you chicken noodle soup, ginger ale, or something you say you’ve been craving. It’s just another way of showing he cares.

He makes eye contact.
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Just like with touching, eye contact is him indirectly saying he’s interested. He’s showing he’s paying attention. Not only that, but the amount of eye contact tells a lot about his intentions. If you’re talking and his eyes start wandering around the room, it’s safe to assume he’s not interested, especially if he does this often. And no, it’s not because you’re talking a lot! Even if you are, he’ll maintain eye contact because he likes you.

He peacocks.
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Sounds silly, but guys follow suit with peacocks when it comes to impressing someone they like. He won’t go parading down the street doing a ridiculous dance, however. (If he does, well, you’ll have to decide if you like that sort of thing.) “Peacocking” refers to him attracting your attention. Maybe he’ll be loud or assertive when you two are out or maybe he’ll be subtle and just stand up straighter. Of course, don’t play into obnoxious behavior for the sake of being nice. Remind him that exuding “alpha” qualities doesn’t mean it’s okay to be rude. Sometimes guys just get caught up with trying to impress the ones they really like.

He looks for your reaction.
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Whether you’re with a group of friends or it’s just the two of you alone, if he cracks a joke, expect him to look to you first. He wants to know what you think. And, in a weird way, if he has your approval. This lets him know if he needs to change up his flirting game to garner your attention or to better impress you.

He gets jealous.
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Let me preface this by saying there’s a difference between jealousy and obsessive behavior. Jealousy, in most cases, is just a normal response that doesn’t elicit a negative reaction. Obsessive behavior, on the other hand, indicates a need to keep someone isolated. For this, let’s just focus on jealousy as a way of him signaling he wants you as more than a friend. If he sees you talking to other guys in public, expect him to want to jump into the conversation to win your attention. He’ll also want to take you away (in a non-menacing way) from anyone else that can flirt with you.

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How To Be Mysterious And Leave Him Wanting More

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When you first start dating a guy, you want to beguile them without coming on too strong. How do you do that? Is it really possible to balance creating plenty of intrigue without showing your cards too soon? It is, but it means being thoughtful about how you manage the situation and not letting the excitement of a possible new relationship overwhelm you. Here’s how to be mysterious in love, at least for a little while.

Leave some things to his imagination.

Getting flirty in person or via text can be a lot of fun and really build up the sexual tension, but you don’t have to go all the way and say every last thing that’s on your mind. In order to be mysterious, you should hint at what’s on your mind and what you’re thinking about without spelling it out word for word. Let him imagine what’s in your head and see how much excitement it leads to.

Don’t always be available when he reaches out.
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If he’s really into you, he’ll make it a priority to get in touch with you regularly. That’s sweet and bodes well for a future relationship, but it also doesn’t mean you have to be at his beck and call from the get-go. If you want to be (or at least seem) mysterious, don’t always jump the second he messages you or asks you to hang out. I’m not saying to play games and pretend you don’t want to see him when you do, just keep things nice and chill. After all, you have a busy, full life anyway, right? This shouldn’t be that hard.

Reveal yourself and your life to him layer by layer.
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When you really connect with a guy, the overwhelming urge to basically spill your guts and reveal your life story can be overwhelming. Resist the urge. Instead, let him get to know you and the things that make you who you are little by little. Make him work to uncover all the special things that have created the woman he wants to date.

Don’t settle into too much of a schedule.
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This is one of the easiest ways to be mysterious. Be spontaneous! If he thinks you always go to the gym on a Saturday or you eat at the same pizza place every Friday night, switch things up. Never become too routine, but instead keep things interesting by switching it up every now and then.

Listen more than you speak.
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At the end of the day, the best way to create a little mystery is to talk a bit less than you speak. You don’t always need to be talking and in fact, listening can help you get to know him even better.

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Healthy Boundaries To Set In Your Relationship And Never Cross

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You might want to be as close as possible with your partner, but that shouldn’t come at the expense of your own autonomy, dignity, and self-respect. No matter how solid your relationship appears to be, healthy boundaries are necessary to put in place and never let slide. If you’re unsure what this means or which boundaries are non-negotiable, here are a few to get you started. Feel free to add your own where appropriate!

Saying no sometimes

Just because you’re in a relationship with someone doesn’t mean you have to agree with them all the time or say yes to every request they make. You are allowed to say no. In fact, you’re even encouraged to sometimes — that’s what you call exercising one of your healthy relationship boundaries.

Taking time to yourself
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Alone time is always important regardless of your relationship status, but it’s even more important when you’re part of a couple. You and your partner aren’t a single unit. Yes, you’re a team, but you’re still your own person and you need time to unwind, decompress, and refill your proverbial cup. It doesn’t matter what you do with that time – it’s yours any you have every right to take it.

Demanding respect
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This is one of the most vital elements of any successful relationship. You cannot be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you, and why would they want to be with you if they didn’t in the first place? Your partner needs to respect your thoughts, feelings, opinions, and desires even if they don’t match their own. That’s the very least they can offer you.

Nurturing your life outside of the relationship
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In addition to having plenty of alone time, another of those healthy relationship boundaries that are important to have in place is your commitment to your life outside of your relationship. That means continuing to pursue hobbies, to spend time with your family and friends, and simply to do your own thing. You don’t want to sacrifice the full life you had when you were single just because you happen to be in a relationship right now. If you do, what happens when it ends? You’ll be screwed.

Communicating your feelings, good or bad
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It can sometimes be tempting in relationships to avoid rocking the boat or hurting your partner’s feelings by clamming up and not saying what you really think or feel. This is toxic and will undoubtedly backfire in the end when you become so resentful/angry/hurt/etc. that you explode. Speak about your feelings honestly and openly and encourage your partner to do the same. Your relationship will be better for it.

The freedom to dictate sexual boundaries
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Again, you do not have to do anything you don’t want to do or are uncomfortable with for the sake of keeping your partner happy, shutting them up, or avoiding conflict. This is one of the most important on the long list of healthy relationship boundaries and should go without saying but it’s still worth mentioning here. Whether you don’t want to do a particular sex act or you simply don’t feel in the mood when your partner is horny, you have every right to say no.

Permission to change your mind
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Yes, you might have said you were okay with something last week but this time around, it doesn’t feel right. That’s your prerogative. You’re allowed to change your mind, even if it annoys or angers your partner. Don’t apologize for it or feel bad.

Having your needs met
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You have the right to demand that your needs are met in a relationship. While you can’t expect your partner to meet every need you have in life, there are certain things partners should be happy or willing to do to ensure you feel loved, appreciated, and cared for. If that’s not happening, you owe it to yourself to get out as soon as possible.

Asserting a right to privacy
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Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you give up your right to privacy. You are allowed to have conversations with friends and family members that your partner isn’t privvy to. You’re allowed to talk to other people, go other places, and live your life without reporting every last minute of your day to your partner. If they don’t like it, they’re too controlling and it’s never going to work.

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How To Stop Being Jealous In Your Relationship — 12 Strategies To Try Right Now

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They say jealousy makes you nasty, but you know what else it makes you? Unhappy, anxious, and miserable. It can also sink your relationship before you can say, “I have some serious trust issues.” If you find that you’re a jealous person (or people have told you so), how deeply does that jealousy really go? Is it affecting your life and your relationship satisfaction? Here’s how to deal with it so that you can get better control over the green-eyed monster and stop being jealous all the time.

Ask yourself where jealousy is coming from. 

You can’t control your jealousy if you don’t know its source. You have to think about what this jealousy is about. Are you jealous because you’ve been hurt by exes and you’re worried your current partner is going to hurt you? Are you jealous because you’re insecure about your relationship?

Make a list of your insecurities.
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Jealousy is always tied to insecurity. For example, maybe you’re jealous about your partner’s friendship with his female co-worker and that makes you feel insecure about the relationship. When dealing with your jealousy, it’s useful to make a list of all your relationship insecurities as this will better help you get to the source of your jealousy and understand its triggers.

Get real with your partner. 
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Another important thing to do when you’re dealing with jealousy is to be open about your feelings with your partner. If you keep your jealousy inside, it can feel more overwhelming and spiral out of control. When you tell your partner about your trust issues, this can help them to understand it and also make sure they don’t do anything to make you feel unnecessarily jealous that it messes with your head. You should also speak to your partner if they’re doing anything to trigger your jealousy, as this will also help you heal from it.

Figure out if your jealousy is warranted.
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Now that you know what causes and triggers your jealousy, you need to figure out if your jealousy is warranted. Thinking your boyfriend is cheating on you because he’s running 10 minutes late from work is unwarranted. On the other hand, thinking your boyfriend is cheating on you because of various reasons that keep presenting themselves, that’s probably warranted jealousy. If you feel like your jealousy doesn’t make you think clearly and logically, it can help to ask some friends for their advice on it.

Focus on realistic relationship expectations.
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Another interesting thing about jealousy is that it can cloud your relationship expectations. If your expectations are very high and your partner doesn’t meet them, this could be misinterpreted as them being shifty or not making enough of an effort or having someone else on the side. So, have realistic expectations about what you want and what your partner can offer you as this will prevent jealousy from appearing.

Think about what you want.
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Sometimes, jealousy can be trying to tell you what you want and what you don’t have right now. Therefore, it’s a good idea to listen to it and see what it’s trying to tell you. For example, if you feel jealous about your partner having a vibrant social life, this could motivate you to think about what you want from your own friendships.

Write down what you feel.
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It can really help you to jot down what you’re feeling jealous about, even on a scrap piece of paper. This will help you to make sense of your thoughts and you’ll be able to spot irrational thinking that you’ll find easier to eliminate from your mind.

Breathe before you push buttons.
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If you feel yourself becoming overwhelmed with jealousy and you want to confront your partner about it, it’s useful to take a few breaths. Go for a 10-minute walk and distract yourself. Or, try to see the bigger picture. Will this jealousy be a big issue next week, or in a month? It might be something silly, or it might be a symptom of a larger problem that you do need to talk to your partner about.

Avoid lashing out at your partner.
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If you’re feeling jealous, it can be easy to use this to attack your partner. You might shut down and isolate yourself from them, or get into a fight. This only leads to drama and might make you feel like you’re nuts. The best thing to do is take time for yourself to calmly and rationally explore the jealousy before you confront your partner. When you decide to communicate it to your partner, make sure you do so when you’re both calm and have time for a chat. Focus on your feelings so that you don’t come across as interrogating them.

Work on your confidence.
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Boost your confidence so that you don’t let your insecurities flow out of control and lead to unnecessary jealousy. Instead of thinking your partner is going to cheat on/hurt you, think about why you will be fine even if they do. It’s hard to trust other people, but you should be trusting yourself and knowing that you can deal with whatever life throws at you.

Think about the good stuff.
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If your jealousy is warranted, then you shouldn’t force yourself to see the good things about your relationship, otherwise, you’ll be denying how you feel and how you’re not happy. However, if you know that your jealousy is rooted in deep insecurities that you have to deal with, it’s good to remind yourself of what’s great about your relationship. This will help you to keep your jealousy in perspective and focus on reality.

See a therapist.
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If you can’t seem to control your jealousy and it’s making you miserable, it’s a good idea to chat to a psychologist about it. He or she will be able to give you healthy coping techniques and show you how to better manage your jealousy so it can’t take over your relationship and your life.

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