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Why A Guy Ignores Your Messages Even When You Can Clearly See He’s Online

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The guy you’re dating hasn’t replied to your texts for a few hours but he’s online, either on social media or WhatsApp. Um, what’s really up with him? While you might feel a bit stalkerish to be checking up on him on social media to see if he’s around, you just can’t help it. If he can see that you’ve texted him and yet he’s still online, isn’t that blatant rudeness? Before you freak out, here’s what could be going on with him and if you can assume he’s trying to ignore you or walk away from your relationship.

He’s already said goodnight.

If you guys spoke earlier that evening and you ended your conversation, saying goodnight and deciding to chat the next day, he might still be online but that doesn’t mean he’s going to chat with you again. It might actually feel awkward for him to drop you a line again. It’s a bit like saying goodbye to friends after dinner, then calling them up again 10 minutes later.

He’s busy with something else.
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He might be online but not actively ignoring you at all. He might not even realize you’re online because he’s chatting to someone else. It might even be a stressful chat he’s having with someone, so there’s no need to jump to conclusions just yet.

He forgot to log off.
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If he was on WhatsApp, he might have forgotten to close the app so he’s viewed as “online” but not really there. Similarly, he might have been checking out social media but then totally forgot to log out. Now he’s asleep, dreaming like a baby, and you’re stressing about him ignoring you. Ugh, it’s just not worth it.

He’s not even near his device.
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If he ignores your messages, maybe there’s an innocent explanation. It’s easy to imagine that he’s always looking at the screen of his device, but this can’t always be the case. In a similar way to how he might have forgotten to exit his apps, he might have left his device logged into messaging or social media apps but it’s physically in another room. This can happen, even if he’s always stuck to his phone, especially if he’s currently at work.

He doesn’t want to talk.
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Okay, this might be a bit painful to swallow, but it doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad. He might just not be up for a chat with you right now. This could be because you guys have exhausted chatting for the day, or he’s busy with other chats, or he’s in a foul mood and doesn’t want you to see him like that. Of course, if you’ve sent the guy a message and he’s actively not responding to it, this could cause your blood pressure to spike, which is understandable. He ignores your messages because he just needs some quiet time. You understand, right?

He doesn’t know what to say.
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If you’ve asked him a question and he hasn’t answered, maybe he’s taking some time to formulate his answer. This is especially what could be happening if you asked him something a bit emotional or complex. Give the guy a bit of time. He might also not be that great with online communication, preferring to chat about heavy topics in person. There’s no reason to freak out just yet.

He’s licking his wounds.
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On the other hand, if you guys had a fight, he might be giving you the silent treatment ’cause he doesn’t want to talk RN. Ouch. He might be feeling pissed off, frustrated, or really sad. He just needs a bit of time to get over what happened. It’s sort of like if you had to be in the same house but you both want to take some time for yourselves before getting back to normal. You might be ready to get back to normal, but maybe he isn’t just yet.

He has a different texting style.
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One of the reasons why he might not be replying to your message despite being online is that he has a different texting style to yours. While you might want to text daily or every second day at least, he might be fine with going for longer without making contact. That said, it’s never cool if you feel like you can never get hold of the guy.

He’s not big on texting.
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 Although he might be on social media a lot, he might not text that much. While that might sound mind-boggling, it’s like preferring one mode of communication over another. Remember, just because you’re on social media all the time, it doesn’t mean that you’re talking to tons of people. You might just be checking out the newsfeed. He might be doing the same thing. So, if you see that he’s on social media but not replying to your texts on WhatsApp, it doesn’t mean he’s dissing you.

He’s actively ignoring you.
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If it happens regularly that the guy’s online but he ignores your messages, then you can start to assume that the guy wants to ignore you. He sees your messages pop up on his device, but he doesn’t want to make an effort to talk to you. While it’s good to ask him what’s going on, you might not even want to because if he’s doing this on the regular, he’s sending you a clear message.

He’s not being empathetic.
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This is linked to the previous point. If you’ve sent him multiple messages but he’s not replying to them, even though you can see that he’s online a lot, he’s not just freezing you out but he doesn’t seem to think about how his actions are affecting you. He doesn’t stop and think that you might see him online and feel bad. His mind doesn’t even go there, so he simply doesn’t care about your feelings. To hell with him.

It’s infuriating when a guy ignores your messages, especially when you know he’s around. However, don’t let it drive you crazy!

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Is A 50/50 Relationship Even Possible? Probably Not — Here’s Why

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This is the question that we all secretly wonder about when we’re in relationships. Where does the power dynamic come in and who is in charge? Well, this is largely determined by who is presumed to have control, which in turn, is determined by who has the least to lose. By these calculations, the person who is least invested has all the power. This means that it puts a greater awareness on wondering who loves the other most. By this questionable logic, some people think that it’s a weakness to love the other person more. It’s not, but it raises the question of whether 50/50 relationships are possible or even desirable.

No emotion is permanent.

Our feelings are not something that we can measure objectively or with numbers. All we can really do is compare them in retrospect, or record them in our teenage diaries to read back in horror when we move out. This means that it’s impossible to have a perfectly 50/50 relationship. That doesn’t mean that no relationship is equal. We all have different roles and functions in the relationship. That’s why we pursue partners who can support us. We should spend less time trying to calculate, analyze, and compare our love for each other, and just accept that it’s wonderful to have so much love to start with.

Each person is different.
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Not only is each emotion different, but so is each person. And we’re all complex beings with different needs and responsibilities and stresses at work. It means that the way we feel about other people is constantly changing – and so it should. It would be strange if it didn’t, because love is meant to be flexible and responsive. They aren’t things that we can win or lose, but just be open and vulnerable with our feelings. Let go of that need to control. You will find you care much less about the details.

Context is key.
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Not only are we all different and not only do we live complex lives, but so does everyone else. Heck, every five minutes I change my mind, forget what I had for lunch, or pick a fight with my sister that I don’t mean. You see what I mean. We’re fickle, us humans. All this to say, we can’t be so hard on ourselves. On top of that, we need to listen to what our heart is telling us so that we can learn more about what we need going forward.

Different love languages balance out affection.
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The beauty of different levels of attraction means that you feel great when you feel great. You only know that because you experience lows sometimes. It’s a fact of life that everyone goes through. It means you can cherish the moments when you feel really strong love, and you can value those special memories. Also, if your love language is physical affection while someone else’s is words of affirmation, you get to learn more ways of loving people. Different standards of what it means to love someone – not better or worse – just different.

Love comes in waves.
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I’ve touched on how the details of everyday life can change how much love you have for other people, but also there are broader patterns. Love is not absolute and we cannot take it for granted. What would be the point if we did?

Equal partners can’t be calculated.
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We can’t judge ourselves by nonexistent metrics and feel good. That’s not healthy. What does it say about us if we feel impressed for loving someone else less?

We are allowed to get annoyed.
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Here’s another fact, not all relationships are 50/50 because the math doesn’t mean that we have to be perfectly 100% in love all the time. We can take breaks, have pauses, or take a minute to ourselves. That’s natural and normal. Just because you’re in love, doesn’t mean you have to give yourself over to someone else entirely. You are allowed to remain yours, too. Remember that. You’re allowed to feel frustration or annoyance if your partner annoys you. It’s okay – you’d be miserable if you had to be happy all the time. People need to deserve our love, we don’t owe them anything.

Things change.
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We all grow, even in a relationship – we should be individuals. Have our own identity. We don’t even need to grow in the same proportion, or at the same rate as one another. Real love is freedom, not a calculation.

You are doing so much better than you think you are. Stop wondering what other people are thinking about you and your relationship. Just make sure you’re comfortable first.

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10 Scientific Benefits Of Cuddling You May Not Have Known About

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Yeah, sex is cool, but have you ever just cuddled? Whether it’s your boyfriend, a casual date, or the family dog, cuddling might just be the perfect way to unwind, get cozy, and boost your wellbeing. Here are some of the top benefits of cuddling backed by science.

Cuddling relieves stress.

This is at the top of the list when it comes to the benefits of cuddling. Having trouble sleeping? Feeling extra stressed? Just need to chill? Cuddling might be the answer! Cuddling someone else releases oxytocin, a hormone that can calm your mind and relax your body. If you’ve ever felt safe and comforted after a good cuddle session, that’s why. Oxytocin is even available as a prescription designed to help people struggling with anxiety and depression. But if you want to skip the pharmacy, cuddle someone you love instead.

It improves your sex life.
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Cuddling and sex do not have to go together, but they definitely can sometimes. And if you’re looking to ignite a spark in the bedroom or want to improve physical intimacy with your partner, cuddling is a great way to start. Skip the lazy couch potato cuddle, and try cuddling face-to-face or even cuddling without any clothes on. If sexy time wasn’t in the schedule, it probably will be now.

Cuddling can lower blood pressure.
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If you want to protect your heart (and not just from players), try cuddling. It can improve heart health, starting with lowering your blood pressure: studies show a link between the oxytocin released from hugging and lower blood pressure. And that’s important, since high blood pressure can lead to a heart attack, stroke, and other serious health problems. Hugging and cuddling can also slow heart rate, proving its relaxing benefits to the body.

It could help with relationship anxiety.
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This is one of the biggest benefits of cuddling. As a rule of thumb, serious relationship issues require more than cuddling to fix them. But if you struggle with trust issues, an anxious attachment, or other relationship worries, even in an otherwise healthy relationship, cuddling could help ease your jitters and get you feeling closer to your partner. If you’ve found that cuddling comforts your uneasiness, be sure to ask your partner to do it more often. Even a long hug when you greet each other or some good ol’ spooning in bed might be enough to soften your anxiety and improve your relationship.

It may ease pain.
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Can you cuddle cramps away? Maybe! Researchers have found that the oxytocin released from cuddling can relieve pain, decrease sensitivity, and block pain receptors in the body. And while it might not be enough to cure your pain for good, it’s scientifically proven to make mild-to-moderate pain less severe. Next time you have a headache or stub your toe, use it as an excuse to initiate a cuddle session.

Hugging and cuddling can stop relationship fights.
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Oxytocin is often nicknamed “the love hormone” because it increases the bond and connection between people. It brings people closer, not only physically, but emotionally too. So if you keep snapping at your partner for silly reasons, cuddling more often could be the key to preventing unnecessary fights before they even start. It’s an easy way to build a healthy relationship, without needing to exchange a single word.

It can boost immunity and prevent illness.
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Thanks again to oxytocin, cuddling can support your immune system and keep you from getting sick. This time, it’s because oxytocin helps to increase levels of serotonin in the body, which is known to enhance immunity. Serotonin also lowers inflammation in the body, keeping you healthy and making it easier to get back on your feet even if you do get sick.

Cuddling could improve digestion.
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Serotonin released during cuddling helps aid proper digestion and tells your brain when you’re full. And not having enough of it could cause issues in the digestive system, leading to conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome. Even if you don’t necessarily want to think about your intestines while cuddling, just know that you’re helping your digestive tract when you do.

You can cuddle almost anyone (who consents, of course).
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You don’t need to be in a relationship to feel the comfort of cuddling. You can cuddle after a hookup, chill on the sofa with your BFF, or even give a family member a big bear hug. Even though cuddling is intimate, it’s much more accessible than other forms of physical intimacy like kissing or sex. As long as you feel comfortable and the other person is cool with it, you can cuddle with pretty much anyone.

It’s great for babies too.
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If you love a good cuddle, you’ve probably been like that literally since birth. Babies get a major boost from skin-to-skin contact with their parents and other caregivers. However, these cuddling benefits extend to all ages. Just like with adults, cuddling helps bond babies to their family, calms their breathing, and helps promote healthy development both inside and out. Tap into your inner toddler and go cuddle someone you love ASAP.

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Why Do I Need Constant Reassurance In My Relationship? What’s Really Going On

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While it’s good to receive validation and reassurance in life and love, there comes a point where you need to trust your instincts and your partner and stop needing them to affirm who you are. When you can’t seem to move past this, it becomes a problem. This can arise for a number of reasons, but remember that it’s never too late to reflect on your behaviors. If you find yourself wondering, Why do I need constant reassurance in my relationship? we have some answers for you.

You were insecure as a teenager.

I mean this is something of a self-explanatory statement, I know. You’d be hard-pressed to find a teenager in the world that wasn’t insecure about something. However, there’s something funny about the teenage mind that convinces us that we must be the most disgusting, strange thing ever to have existed. It’s obviously not true, but nothing makes you feel like the cruel exception to life’s glory like being a sweaty, spotty 15-year-old. Not that I speak from experience, of course. Either way, it instills in us the sense that we’re always behind everyone else or fighting against the curve. It makes us feel like we need to play catch up. This is why you will always find young 200-somethings rushing in and out of relationships because once we do get into a relationship, we find it hard to be alone after and don’t give ourselves time to work on ourselves in between. It’s natural and nearly universal, however. It’s worth considering adapting your behavior.

You don’t feel like you have value.
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 This is where the insecurity from the teenage years takes root. We all act differently when we feel like we are worthless. It drives us to do things that we would never expect. You come to expect that validation to come from other people and that’s not healthy. Your partner will be wonderful, but they should never be the sole person responsible for your happiness. It’s too much pressure, and receiving constant reassurance won’t help alleviate it.

You thought you’d never have a partner.
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You begin to doubt why your partner is with you in some cases of extreme insecurity, leading you to need constant reassurance. This is upsetting on both parts, though, because although you are unhappy, you’re also implicitly doubting your partner. It isn’t right to tell your partner how they feel. It does them a disservice, and yet, nothing they say will make you feel better.

You hold on too tight.
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Space is always a godsend in the case of relationships, but if you’re hanging too tight, it will make for a very claustrophobic relationship. This is particularly true if your partner needs this space. You need to give people a minute to themselves so that they can check in with themselves and friends. Otherwise, you will drive them to panic and emotional exhaustion.

You’re scared of distance.
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As is the case with space, you need to learn to love distance in a relationship. As working adults, you’ll never be spending every hour together anyway. You need to fit each other into your routine. It’s an expression of love when you find time, rather than just an inevitability. You can be refreshed this way.

You stop communicating your vulnerability.
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Over time, you will grow to repeat yourself and repeat yourself. Unless your partner is an absolute paragon of patience, this will begin to seed resentment. Everyone wants to support each other, but if there’s no sign of growth or progress, that’s difficult to stomach.

There’s a lack of trust.
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This is one of the biggest reasons you need constant reassurance. You’re showing your partner that you don’t trust them. You’re asking them for validation, but are you really listening to them? If you were, you’d believe them. You must learn to relax with your partner and trust them. Otherwise, you’ll find it difficult to unwind and relax in your own space.

Scared that things are going too well.
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Even if you aren’t in as extreme a situation as some of these examples, you might still feel like running when things get too good. That’s a natural instinct.

In conclusion, if you see yourself in some of these examples just be kind to yourself and think some things through. You’re not alone, so always reach out to someone you trust.

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