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How To Flirt WIth A Guy Without Risking Embarassment

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Showing a guy you’re interested in him without making a fool of yourself is a delicate balance. You don’t want to come off as aloof or make him think you don’t care so that he doesn’t bother to pursue you, but you also don’t want to fall all over him when you’re not even sure if he’s into you. Here’s how to flirt with a guy and keep it as chill as possible while avoiding embarrassment altogether.

Keep it casual.

This is perhaps the most important advice when it comes to figuring out how to flirt with a guy. Many men are easily scared off in the beginning so you want to avoid coming on too strong. You can do that easily by just keeping it relaxed. Instead of asking him if he wants to go on a date with you because you’re single and looking for your future husband (lol, I know it’s true), why not just ask him if he feels like hanging out on Saturday night or going to the greenmarket with you on Sunday? The more relaxed your approach, the less stressful it’ll be for you.

Read the room.
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By this I mean you should feel him out to make sure flirting with him is even appropriate. If he’s a relative stranger, you probably want to make sure he’s actually single and open to dating before you start putting the moves on him. Pay attention to little details to make sure you have the all-clear before putting yourself out there.

Mirror his body language.
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A good way to flirt with a guy is by mirroring the same energy he’s giving you. If he’s a touchy-feely guy and you’re into physical touch as well, feel free to put your hand on his arm if he makes you laugh or lean in towards him. Mirroring his actions will let you know that what you’re doing is appropriate while also showing your interest. After all, if you weren’t feeling it, you’d probably avoid any kind of contact, right?

Focus on the things you have in common.
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If you both like some obscure band that most of your other fans haven’t heard of, connect on that! Tap into the unique things you connect on and really focus on that. When he sees that you’re into some of the more niche things that get him going, he’ll be way more likely to be into you (or at least be way more intrigued). It may seem like this isn’t going to get you a date at all, but it’s a great way to flirt with a guy, trust me.

Have confidence.
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At the end of the day, showing a guy you’re interested in him doesn’t have to be embarrassing even if he’s not feeling the same. How’s that, you ask? You should have confidence. Know that you’re a snack and that any guy would be lucky to have you. Feel confident in your interest in him as well as your ability to brush your shoulders off if he’s not feeling the same. With an attitude like that, you really can’t lose.

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How To Cope With Dating Anxiety And Not Let It Overwhelm You

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You, dear reader who feels totally overwhelmed, stressed, and terrified at the thought of dating, are not crazy. Dating—especially in modern times—is a scary thing. It’s absolutely okay to feel anxious about it. If you do have dating anxiety, you’re also not alone. This totally normal feeling does not have to stop you from finding the one or getting out there and having the fun you deserve. You can date with anxiety, but here are some tips to help alleviate your nerves and avoid getting overwhelmed in the process.

Take your time.

It can be tempting to speed things up when you’re looking for someone to spend your life with. But if you have dating anxiety, it’s important to take your time. Don’t rush things. Instead, take them slow and move at a pace that you feel comfortable with. If you move slowly, you’ll have time to slowly adjust to new things that give you anxiety in the dating world. And it’ll be less likely that they’ll overwhelm you.

Don’t compare your dating life to everyone else’s.
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Comparisonitis is the thief of joyful relationships. Part of going at your own pace is not trying to compete with everyone else. Date according to what feels comfortable for you, especially if you have hesitations about dating in the first place. Don’t worry about who other people are dating, where they’re going, and what stage they’re at. Everyone is in their own lane! Stay off Instagram if it feels like a source that makes you compare yourself to others.

Choose locations and activities that feel safe to you.
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Dating is scary for everyone, whether or not you have specific fears around it. To make it feel less overwhelming, stick to activities and locations that feel comfortable to you. If a dinner date is too scary, try a shorter coffee date. Choose cafes and other locations that you’re already familiar with. Many people find that low-key date activities, such as going for a walk during the day, feel less overwhelming than, say, drinks in a bar at night. As you get more comfortable, you can explore more exciting options.

Trust your gut instincts.
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It can be tricky to trust your gut instincts when they’re dominated by anxiety. But it’s still important to listen to your intuition when dating. If you get a bad vibe from someone, don’t feel pressured to date them. Learn to tune into your inner voice and let it guide you through the process.

Confide in someone you trust.
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Talk about your dating anxiety with someone you trust. It can really help to relieve feelings of anxiety to open up about them and confide in someone. Do you have any friends who are at the same stage in their dating lives? If so, chat about your experiences together. You might find that your friends share many of the same fears that you do. These discussions can also make you feel less alone in your dating anxiety.

Consider bringing a support person.
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If the thought of going on a date gives you major anxiety, getting into panic attack territory, consider bringing along a support person. Ask a friend you trust to just be at the café you’re going to, or even nearby in case you need them. Ask them to keep their phone on loud in case you have to ring them. Your date doesn’t have to know a thing!

Accept that dating is scary.
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The most helpful thing you can do for dating anxiety is accept that dating is scary. Don’t feel like there’s something wrong with you for feeling anxious about it. You’re putting yourself out there, which is terrifying. And the future is very uncertain. It’s definitely cause for anxiety! The wonderful thing is you don’t have to get rid of anxiety in order to date. You can get out there and date while feeling anxious. That’s perfectly okay.

Don’t try to hide your anxiety.
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Along with accepting your anxiety, you could try being honest about it with your date. You don’t have to, but if you feel comfortable enough, feel free to make a comment about being nervous. It’s possible your date is nervous too, and might even feel reassured at your comment. Having to hide anxiety makes it worse, since there’s added unnecessary pressure. In reality, it’s normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

Don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go well.
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Take more pressure off yourself by reassuring yourself that it’s okay if things don’t go well. The truth is most first dates don’t go splendidly. But all it takes is one good one to change your life! The important thing is that you’re feeling anxious and you’re still dating anyway. That’s huge and you should be proud of it! If the date goes well, that’s just the cherry on top.

Don’t try to date too many people at once.
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Dating a lot of people at once is now more possible than ever thanks to dating apps. But if you have anxiety about dating, you might find that trying to juggle too many people can leave you feeling overwhelmed. At the same time, it might increase your anxiety to put all your eggs in one basket and concentrate all your effort on one person. Do what feels right for you, but don’t date countless people just because you can. Again, go at your own pace and do what you feel comfortable with.

Set boundaries.
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No matter what, you are ultimately in control when it comes to your own dating life. Set boundaries so that you and your date know what you’re comfortable with and what’s not okay. If you don’t want to drink too much on a date, tell the person you’re seeing. If you don’t want to go back to their house, make that clear. Set those boundaries to reassure yourself that you’re in charge of yourself, and you never have to do anything you don’t want to. And if your date doesn’t respect your boundaries or guilts you for making them, then you know there won’t be a date number two.

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Relationship Milestones All Long-Term Couples Should Eventually Hit

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I know that intimacy is a big word, but people are totally wrong when they think that sex is the be-all and end-all of relationships. They’re all about physical attraction, and so rarely about intimacy in the beginning. If you want to really hit the big relationship milestones, you’ll find them in the realm of fart-giggles and lying on the sofa comparing food babies after a big meal. See what I mean? This type of relationship ensures that you aren’t judging intimacy in terms of what you let each other see in the dim lights of a bedroom. It’s in daylight and it’s intentional. Here are some of the other important ones.

The first fart

Of all the relationship milestones, this is one of the most important. There are many ways this can play out. Believe me. Some are worse than others but don’t worry when the first comes — many many more will follow. It’s like London busses. You wait all that time for one and then three come at once. More than that, the dam has broken in the relationship in terms of being worried about performing romantic gestures all the time. You realize you don’t have to perform anything or hold anything back. You can be yourself and relax. Really relax, if you get me. Lol. Anyway, you can still have the big romantic gestures, but you can also have a meaningful time at home in the flat. You’re not stressed that you need to fart or use the toilet in his space or whatever. It shows that you’re both comfortable and you won’t let your insecurities interrupt your time together. It helps you to love yourself too. You won’t feel gross or smelly or sweaty when you embrace it and have fun.

Sweaty hand-holding
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 This is the stage in which you realize you can be sweaty and it not be an issue. You aren’t less loveable, and trust me when I say your partner would rather hold your sweaty hand than not at all. They probably didn’t even notice, frankly. We’re all a little sweaty, you shouldn’t internalize the idea that you’re the exception to what everyone else is happy to overlook. Getting comfortable here will make actual romantic time way more intimate and meaningful.

Burps
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You get to the stage pretty early on of having burping competitions. Or, at the very least, rating them as they come along. It’s so much fun and you can just let everything out. Why give yourself stomach problems by crossing your legs? Your partner loves all of your IBS-laden self. Never forget that.

Dodgy dance moves
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 I’m not talking about grinding on each other in the club when you’ve both had too much to drink and nothing matters. No. I’m talking about getting wine drunk at an ABBA tribute concert on a Tuesday afternoon and starting a conga line with the old women around you on the floor. You can survive that, you can survive anything. And hey, no one is killing my ABBA buzz. No one.

Meeting friends with stories about your cringy youth
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Cringing about your past is a natural part of growing up. It shows growth and maturity. However, you should never think that you have to regret things in your past just because you’re different now. You enjoyed yourself at the time. It never occurred to you to wear anything other than neon pink and bangles. We were all the same and your partner will find these stories hilarious from your friends. It’ll provide enough entertainment for hours and you will also get to think back to that young girl and think how proud she’d be of what you became. This is one of the biggest relationship milestones to look forward to.

Old pictures
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I’m not talking baby pictures here. Those are safe game — people whip those out when he’s only just started hitting on you. No. I’m talking about pictures from when you were fifteen. Not just the rogue outfits that your mum picked out, this is the age when you should have known better. Not that any of us did. But if they can bear witness to the braces, glasses, and Rubix cube obsession and stick around, then they’re there for life. That’s a huge milestone.

Meeting grandparents
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Now, I don’t know about you, but I feel that at any moment my grandparents could say anything. Like, truly anything. I can’t predict that and I can’t prep them for the arrival of my partner. I’m just trusting the process and trying to find my safe space. If I introduce my partner to my grandparents that’s a whole different ball game than parents, because grandparents will not even pretend if they don’t vibe with someone.

The first argument when you’re lost on a road trip
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 Were you driving too fast? Yes. Were they meant to be directing you? Yes. Did you miss the exit three times as a result? Yes. Did you laugh about it in an hour? Also yes.

So there you have it, a few unromantic relationship milestones that every long-term couple has to go through. Remember that you don’t come out the other side unscathed!

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Powerful Love Affirmations That Will Draw Your Soulmate To You

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An affirmation is a statement or mantra that you say to yourself on a regular basis to help manifest positive outcomes. Research has shown that maintaining a daily practice can train your brain to recognize these mantras as actionable facts. If you’re single and wishing to meet the perfect partner, trying these love affirmations may be a surprisingly effective tool for success. Here are a few suggestions:

“I am ready to meet the person of my dreams.”

Perhaps the most important mindset to attain in your pursuit of love is openness. You may want to meet the love of your life, but if you’re subconsciously telling yourself that you’re not quite prepared for it, you won’t be in the right frame of mind to receive an opportunity when it arises. Anticipate success, and you will be ready when it taps you on the shoulder. This is one of the most important and life-changing love affirmations out there.

“My partner will accept me as I am.”
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No one is perfect. You won’t find the right partner if you constantly feel inadequate. You will gravitate towards people who confirm your self-criticism by pointing out your flaws and reminding you that you have room to improve. Focus on accepting yourself, and you will find someone who accepts you too.

“I am worthy of the love I have to give.”
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Set the bar high. You know the love you are capable of giving, so you set the requirement that your partner meets that threshold too. By affirming your worth and acknowledging the depth of your love, you will draw someone to you who is capable of loving as fully as you, and who knows you are worthy of receiving it.

“I will meet the love of my life.”
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It is normal to feel fatigued by a string of unsuccessful relationships, but make sure to stay positive about your prospects. Becoming discouraged about your love life will only reinforce your bad luck. Tell yourself that you will meet your soulmate, and you can break the cycle of self-defeat. Of all the love affirmations you must believe with your whole heart, this should be at the top of the list.

“My relationship will be built on mutual respect and trust.”
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We’ve all been complicit in fostering unhealthy relationships. Sometimes it can feel inevitable, as if the only people you could possibly be attracted to also happen to be unworthy partners. But you can choose the qualities you want in a partner. Set the intention of falling in love with someone with whom you can have an emotionally healthy relationship, and you will start to see people you’ve been overlooking.

“I do not need to change in order to be loved for who I am.”
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Everyone is a work in progress, but no one will ever attain perfection. Sometimes we set our expectations for ourselves too high by believing that no one could ever love us unless we are the best version of ourselves. But you can and will live your entire life without ever reaching this point. We are all in the same boat. You would never expect your partner to be perfect. Why should you expect anything different from yourself? Tell yourself that you are enough as you are, right in this moment. You are worthy of love. Say it and repeat.

“I am not afraid to be vulnerable.”
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One of the most effective ways to sabotage your ability to find love is by overprotecting yourself. You have to be vulnerable for a relationship to deepen. If you are waiting for the other person to open up first, you may never get the chance to see whether or not they could be your soulmate. Accept that the path to lasting love has painful detours and you will need to be brave and resilient. You will get there in the end if you keep marching forward.

“My past is not my future.”
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It’s easy to become the victim of your dating history by labeling yourself as “unlucky” or “bad at choosing partners.” While these things may be true, they are not permanent states of being. Just because you made a few mistakes in previous relationships or have a track record of dating the wrong people doesn’t mean you can’t change now. Your future is yours to create.

I will not settle for less than I deserve.
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Repeated disappointments can lead to compromise. But if you settle for someone who is not deserving of you just because you’ve been unsuccessful at finding your soulmate so far, you’re making it a lot harder for the love of your life to find you. Be patient and focus on the end goal. Now is not the time to compromise.

“My soulmate is searching for me just as I am searching for them.”
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Finding love is an active process. You don’t wait for it to strike you out of nowhere. It is also collaborative. Your partner is out there looking for you right now. Imagining this will make you feel less alone, and give you the extra motivation to stay focused on your goal.

These love affirmations may be hard to internalize at first, but the more you say them, the more you will begin to believe them and the closer they’ll be to becoming reality.

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