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Signs You’re Already Sexy: Qualities That Make You Hot As Hell

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Many women just about kill themselves trying to be sexy, but the irony is that they’re probably already hot. While physical attractiveness does play a part in how attractive we’re deemed by other people, the truth is that non-physical traits also count for a lot. Keep reading to find out the signs that you’re sexy as hell and don’t even realize it.

Knowing that you’re sexy

You’ve heard it a million times before, but confidence is still the sexiest quality a person can have. If you know you’re hot, then it exudes through everything you do. You’ll naturally carry yourself differently, talk differently, and just appear more confident overall. Even though One Direction sang about how attractive it was for a girl to not know she was beautiful, knowing you’re beautiful is definitely better.  That’s not to say that you should be arrogant. Confidence isn’t about thinking you’re better than everyone else. It’s just about knowing that you’re enough.

Independence
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 Dating gurus put a lot of weight on men needing to feel needed. While there may be some truth to this hero complex, being independent makes you hot. Taking care of yourself and being self-sufficient is an attractive quality in anyone, no matter who you are. By contrast, expecting someone else to take care of you can make you come across as needy, annoying, and hard work.

Vulnerability
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 While independence is a hot quality, so is vulnerability. And the good news is you can be both. You can be vulnerable while still taking care of yourself. Being vulnerable is about releasing the need to be perfect and opening up. It’s about taking risks and knowing that you might get hurt, but taking a chance anyway. That vulnerability is more endearing than perfection because perfection isn’t real. But vulnerability is something that everyone can relate to.

Compassion.
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Compassion and kindness make you sexier than you’d think. The truth is that most of us are attracted to humans that are actually decent. The novelty of the bad guy or girl wears off very quickly once you actually have to do life with that person. Being kind and having integrity will make you shine, especially because a lot of people aren’t great at being kind.

Selflessness
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 Along with being kind and compassionate, being selfless is an attractive quality. Thinking of others before yourself is sexy, although people don’t often mention it. Why? The opposite, being selfish, is so unattractive. Not that you have to be a martyr and forget about your own needs. But being selfless involves considering how others feel and taking that into account before making decisions. People who are selfless are typically more pleasant to be around.

Individuality
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 Many people are afraid to be their true selves. Instead, they try to force themselves to fit a pre-designed mould—one that society deems acceptable. So when someone comes along who is unapologetically individual, it’s rare and refreshing. And sexy. Individuality is about confidence, too. It takes a lot of confidence and self-love to let your true self shine. Especially if it doesn’t fit into what’s considered “cool”.

Ambition
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 Most people would agree that ambition is hot at heck. Having a goal and pursuing it diligently tends to be much more appealing than just doing what life tells you to do. It often shows determination, motivation, capability, and open-mindedness. There will be some people who are put off by ambitious women. But you have to ask yourself whether they’re really your kind of people.

Courage
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 According to Glamour, one of the sexiest traits that few people talk about is courage. Remember that courage isn’t the absence of fear. It’s being afraid and pushing on anyway. Again, courage is relatively rare. So when someone is brave, it’s special. We’re more likely to root for courageous characters in TV and books. And we’re also more likely to be attracted to courage over cowardice.

Intelligence
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Some women feel that they have to dumb themselves down to be attractive to men. There are undoubtedly men out there who can’t handle women who are smarter than them. But, again, this probably isn’t the kind of guy you want to attract anyway. Actually, intelligence is a quality that makes someone more attractive. Research has shown that people would rather be with someone who is as smart if not smarter than themselves, rather than being with someone of a lower intellect.

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Powerful Love Affirmations That Will Draw Your Soulmate To You

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An affirmation is a statement or mantra that you say to yourself on a regular basis to help manifest positive outcomes. Research has shown that maintaining a daily practice can train your brain to recognize these mantras as actionable facts. If you’re single and wishing to meet the perfect partner, trying these love affirmations may be a surprisingly effective tool for success. Here are a few suggestions:

“I am ready to meet the person of my dreams.”

Perhaps the most important mindset to attain in your pursuit of love is openness. You may want to meet the love of your life, but if you’re subconsciously telling yourself that you’re not quite prepared for it, you won’t be in the right frame of mind to receive an opportunity when it arises. Anticipate success, and you will be ready when it taps you on the shoulder. This is one of the most important and life-changing love affirmations out there.

“My partner will accept me as I am.”
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No one is perfect. You won’t find the right partner if you constantly feel inadequate. You will gravitate towards people who confirm your self-criticism by pointing out your flaws and reminding you that you have room to improve. Focus on accepting yourself, and you will find someone who accepts you too.

“I am worthy of the love I have to give.”
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Set the bar high. You know the love you are capable of giving, so you set the requirement that your partner meets that threshold too. By affirming your worth and acknowledging the depth of your love, you will draw someone to you who is capable of loving as fully as you, and who knows you are worthy of receiving it.

“I will meet the love of my life.”
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It is normal to feel fatigued by a string of unsuccessful relationships, but make sure to stay positive about your prospects. Becoming discouraged about your love life will only reinforce your bad luck. Tell yourself that you will meet your soulmate, and you can break the cycle of self-defeat. Of all the love affirmations you must believe with your whole heart, this should be at the top of the list.

“My relationship will be built on mutual respect and trust.”
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We’ve all been complicit in fostering unhealthy relationships. Sometimes it can feel inevitable, as if the only people you could possibly be attracted to also happen to be unworthy partners. But you can choose the qualities you want in a partner. Set the intention of falling in love with someone with whom you can have an emotionally healthy relationship, and you will start to see people you’ve been overlooking.

“I do not need to change in order to be loved for who I am.”
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Everyone is a work in progress, but no one will ever attain perfection. Sometimes we set our expectations for ourselves too high by believing that no one could ever love us unless we are the best version of ourselves. But you can and will live your entire life without ever reaching this point. We are all in the same boat. You would never expect your partner to be perfect. Why should you expect anything different from yourself? Tell yourself that you are enough as you are, right in this moment. You are worthy of love. Say it and repeat.

“I am not afraid to be vulnerable.”
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One of the most effective ways to sabotage your ability to find love is by overprotecting yourself. You have to be vulnerable for a relationship to deepen. If you are waiting for the other person to open up first, you may never get the chance to see whether or not they could be your soulmate. Accept that the path to lasting love has painful detours and you will need to be brave and resilient. You will get there in the end if you keep marching forward.

“My past is not my future.”
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It’s easy to become the victim of your dating history by labeling yourself as “unlucky” or “bad at choosing partners.” While these things may be true, they are not permanent states of being. Just because you made a few mistakes in previous relationships or have a track record of dating the wrong people doesn’t mean you can’t change now. Your future is yours to create.

I will not settle for less than I deserve.
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Repeated disappointments can lead to compromise. But if you settle for someone who is not deserving of you just because you’ve been unsuccessful at finding your soulmate so far, you’re making it a lot harder for the love of your life to find you. Be patient and focus on the end goal. Now is not the time to compromise.

“My soulmate is searching for me just as I am searching for them.”
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Finding love is an active process. You don’t wait for it to strike you out of nowhere. It is also collaborative. Your partner is out there looking for you right now. Imagining this will make you feel less alone, and give you the extra motivation to stay focused on your goal.

These love affirmations may be hard to internalize at first, but the more you say them, the more you will begin to believe them and the closer they’ll be to becoming reality.

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10 Things Men Only Do When They’re Flirting With You, According To A Guy

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It’s in the nature of flirting to be a little mysterious and not just lay your cards down on the table. Of course, that can also make it more difficult to be sure that someone is trying to be romantic. Fortunately, most men aren’t that great at hiding their flirting; most of us have a tell. If he’s doing any of these things, chances are he’s interested in you as more than a friend.

He uses innuendo.

There’s no reason to make suggestive jokes if you’re not into the person you’re making them to. Perhaps you’re in a group of people and somebody is making a joke, but if you’re one-on-one with a guy and he goes out of his way to use innuendo in some way, safely assume that he’s flirting with you.

He tries to make jokes.
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Okay, so some people are naturally funny and always find a clever way to make jokes. However, men who go out of their way to seem hilarious are flirting. Guys love being able to make a woman laugh, which is why we try to do so when we like you. Part of us thinks it’s an easy way to get you to like us back. Unless you sense that a guy is just effortlessly funny, if he’s trying to make you laugh, he’s flirting.

He tries to figure out your relationship status.
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Can you imagine a guy trying to find out if you’re single without having an agenda? This isn’t the kind of topic guys are going to bring up unless they’re digging for information. Granted, guys aren’t always smart and smooth about bringing up this topic. If he makes an effort to find out your relationship status, just assume that everything before that and everything that follows is flirting.

He tries to impress you.
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Sure, a lot of guys are egomaniacs who are always trying to pump themselves up and let people know their best qualities. But a guy who’s flirting will always try a little harder to brag about himself in subtle and not-so-subtle ways. He’ll make an obvious effort to bring up things that he thinks you will like and be impressed by.

His voice changes.
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It’s tough to describe how a guy’s voice changes when he’s flirting because everyone is a little different. But he’ll tend to sound more excitable as if he’s trying to be positive and upbeat. After all, if he’s flirting, it means he likes you, so he’ll be a little more excited. If you notice a shift in his speech patterns or the cadence or tone in his voice, that’s a good sign.

He talks a lot.
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In addition to the sound of his voice, how much a guy talks will change when he’s flirting. Unless he thinks of himself as a lady’s man and has a lot of experience flirting, he’ll tend to ramble on a bit when he’s putting the moves on. He’ll get excited and start rambling, usually about the things he likes because that’s what he knows the most about. Hopefully, whatever he says is at least interesting to you!

He makes Eye contact.
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Naturally, eye contact is a huge part of flirting. You can tell a lot about a guy’s feelings for you (or lack thereof) by the way he looks at you. Of course, this doesn’t mean that men don’t make eye contact other times, but if he’s flirting, he’ll be more aware of the importance of catching your gaze and holding it. Either that, or he literally won’t be able to keep his eyes off of you. He may not even be doing it on purpose, he just can’t look away.

He tries to break the touch barrier.
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Okay, so not all guys will get touchy-feely when they’re flirting with you, but if he does seem to be finding any excuse to put his hands on you (in a respectful way, of course), that pretty much means he’s into you. It’s a physical way of showing interest – he hopes you’ll get the message.

He repeats what you say.
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No, he’s not a parrot. A guy who’s flirting will repeat what you say because he’s actually listening to you. He wants to prove to you that he has good listening skills and that he’s engaged with what you’re talking about.

he offers nothing but compliments.
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Offering compliments is a huge way that guys like to flirt. It’s one of our best tricks for getting into your good graces and making you feel good about yourself. That doesn’t mean you should be suspicious of every compliment you get. But if a guy is giving you one compliment after another, you should know that he’s trying to put the moves on you.

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Why Your Partner Annoys You And What To Do About It

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This might seem like a bad article, or like something that you wouldn’t read if you were really in love. However, I’m going to stop you right there. If you’re not having arguments with your partner, then you’re not in a relationship. That’s a monologue or a distracting dance break. A performance. Someone won’t be saying that they really mean and that’s the communication killer for relationships. That’s why it’s actually a good thing to be annoyed by your partner on occasion, or even regularly. You don’t have to be a saint to be a good girlfriend, and here’s why.

It just means you’re too similar.

Maybe you’ve just spent lockdown together. You’re probably getting annoyed with your partner because you’re seeing yourself in them. I know we all do it. We all see other people make mistakes that we either made previously or that we worry that we make. We lash out as a result. It’s not their fault necessarily, but it almost feels like an attack. A sneaky insight into an insecurity that you didn’t want to acknowledge. Maybe just take some space when you can and you’ll be refreshed in no time. Plus, most people merge into each other when they’ve been dating long enough anyway, just keep an eye on it.

You’re spending too much time together.
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Maybe you’re starting to stop hanging out with other friends. You’re exclusively in each other’s company. This means that, on the one hand, you’re not doing fun things with other friends, but you’re also running out of things to do with your partner – and yet you feel like you should want to spend time with them always. This isn’t true, though. It’s natural and common to spend time apart. That’s how you stay well-rounded and fun-loving and can actually return to your partner with things to talk about! Make sure you make room for other people in your life, and you’ll stop fixating on your partner’s idiosyncrasies.

You’re unenriched.
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Maybe they’re getting a little lazy and a little too content in the relationship. When was the last time you guys actually planned a fun date night or day out together? Are you getting bored in the apartment trying to find something new on Netflix? Why not take the initiative and go on a trip somewhere spontaneous? You don’t have to go far or break the bank. Just try a picnic or go to the theatre. Something low pressure where other people can bring the culture to you.

Annoyance is a new phase in a relationship.
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This is a bit like when your partner tells you there’s a booger on your face for the very first time. It’s not like this doesn’t happen to everyone, and it’s not like you didn’t want to be told, but you still feel embarrassed. It shows that you’re both familiar with each other in a new, intimate way. More than that, you might start to nag each other, or pester each other in new ways than before. Where it was all about sex, drugs, and rock and roll before, now it’s all about domestic bliss and making sure you maintain your shared spaces and living areas. Priorities change. If you feel yourself getting annoyed at your partner, it probably just signals this moment of change, adjustment, and transition.

Be kind to yourself.
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First of all, remember that it’s perfectly okay to be annoyed by your partner. It’s healthy. It means that you’re not in the first honeymoon stage of courting. You can actually see each other’s flaws and look them in the eye, and love them all the more for it. This also means that you can love your partner in waves. Life happens, things change, life moves on. Your emotions and feelings are allowed to change with that. Roll with the punches and know that you love them in spite of these silly spats. You might think that you’re getting bored and spoiling for a fight just to feel something different. Don’t mistake peace and happiness for numbness. Give yourself a minute to figure out the difference.

Communicate.
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Anything is a communication opportunity. If his dirty shoes are bugging you, tell him! He’ll fix it quickly and there’s no use suffering in silence for no reason. Part of the reason these small issues become major ones is that you don’t nip them in the bud when they’re fresh. Do both of you a favor and speak up.

Establish a new dialogue about needs.
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Check in again and figure out what these annoyances might be telling you. Do you see new boundaries emerging, or old ones dissolving? Discuss that.

Redefine relationship boundaries.
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This is always a great time for an honest conversation to air any grievances and stop them from festering. Better out than in.

Find ways of being calm, kind, and mindful when your partner bugs you. Communicate clearly and you can fix everything.

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