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How To Ask A Guy To Be Your Boyfriend And Get Him To Say Yes

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You’ve been dating casually for a while now and you really like each other. You’re ready to take things to the next level but you don’t actually know how to do it. What if you get rejected? What if you sound stupid? What if he doesn’t like you as much as you thought. Stop freaking out. Here’s how to ask a guy to be your boyfriend and get him to say yes.

Make sure the timing is right.

Obviously you don’t want to ask this guy to be your boyfriend when you’ve just had a major fight or there’s something really stressful/upsetting going on in either of your lives. You also don’t want to do it when you’ve only just started dating. Jumping the gun is a surefire way to freak him out and ruin things unnecessarily. Take a deep breath, reflect on what’s going on, and decide when the timing is right.

Ensure you both know what you’re getting into.
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You should want to be an official couple because you truly know him and care about him. If there are still huge parts of his life you know nothing about or parts of his personality that you’re not sure about (or vice versa), you most definitely should not ask him to be your boyfriend. You want to be prepared for what it means to be in a committed relationship, and you can’t do that if you don’t even really know each other yet.

Do it in person, not via text.
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Why would you ever try to make your relationship official via text? Not only is that bizarre and unlikely to be successful but you’re also depriving yourself of what could be a really amazing experience if you were to do it in person. Wait until you’re together to ask the big question. You’ll be so much happier you waited.

Be casual when you bring it up.
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You don’t need to try and set some major dramatic scene or make it a huge occasion like you’re going to ask him to marry you. All you want to do is ask the guy to be your boyfriend in the chillest, most relaxed way. There’s no need for you to freak out about it or to turn it into a bigger thing than it is. He’s likely to get weirded out if you do.

Tell him how you’re feeling about him.
The most important thing here is to be open and honest with your feelings. Let him know that you really like him and care about him. Maybe even tell him some of the specific things that have made you become incredibly fond of him. Tell him how much you enjoy your time together and how excited you are for the future together. Just speak from the heart and you’re sure to get it right.

Pop the question.
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Finally, it’s time to ask the guy to be your boyfriend. There’s no sense dragging it out or putting it off – just put it out there and see what he says. If you’re being genuine and you’re on the same page, there’s no way he’ll respond with anything else than an enthusiastic yes.

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Before Becoming Emotionally Invested In A Guy, Consider These Things

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Dating can be fun and carefree, but once you get emotionally invested in a guy, all bets are off. Suddenly, feelings are involved and you’re vulnerable. You could get hurt, and you very well might be if things don’t work out. Love is always worth the risk, of course, but before you put yourself in a position to have your heart broken, consider these things to determine whether it’s a good idea.

Is he mature enough for a real relationship?

You might be ready to get into a committed relationship with a long-term partner and hopefully build a life together, but he is on the same page? There’s no point in getting emotionally invested in a guy who’s still content playing the field and who would prefer to keep it casual and “go with the flow.” That’s not to say that he needs to get down on bended knee and propose a month into the relationship, but if he’s not interested in anything serious and you are, save yourself the trouble.

Does he want the same things as you?
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It goes without saying that in addition to wanting a committed relationship, he needs to actually agree with you on the big picture. If you want to spend time traveling before having kids and buying a house while he’s content staying in your hometown but thinks kids are annoying and marriage is pointless, it’s never going to work out.

Does anything about his behavior seem off?
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Never, ever get emotionally invested in a guy who is displaying red flags when you first start dating. If anything seems like it’s just not quite right — his stories don’t line up, he’s super shady, you find out he’s lied to you, etc. — when you need to end things immediately rather than wasting your time and potentially getting played.

Are you giving more than you’re getting?
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While relationships won’t always be 50/50 — life happens and sometimes one partner needs to step up to the plate a bit more — it should generally be an equal effort from both people. If this isn’t happening from the beginning and you find that you’re the one doing the chasing, putting in all the effort, and pulling all the weight, it’s pretty clear that becoming emotionally invested is a very bad idea.

Can you actually see a future with him?
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You’re not a teenager anymore and chances are you’re now dating to marry, or at least dating to settle down. That means that if you can’t see a future with a guy, you’re wasting your time with him. Only go for people you can actually envision being in your life long-term. That’s the only way you’ll find the happiness you’re looking for and the love you deserve.

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How To Finally Stop Falling For The Wrong Guys Once And For All

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We’ve all been there before: you meet a guy we like, throw all your eggs in one basket, and don’t realize until it’s too late that he’s a total waste of time. It sucks, but it’s completely avoidable. If you keep falling for the wrong guys and you want to stop for good, here are some things you need to do. After all, you’re an amazing woman with so much to offer, but only if it’s to someone who’s on your level.

Raise your standards.

If you’re always falling for the wrong guys, the most likely reason is that you don’t have high enough standards. While you shouldn’t can’t the men you date to be gods on earth who are totally flawless and submit to your every whim, you can expect them to treat you with respect, keep their word, and pull their weight in the relationship. That’s the bare minimum! Raise your standards and hold guys to them – that will weed out the bulk of the bad ones right away.

Develop your self-worth.
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Perhaps one of the reasons you don’t have high standards is that you don’t have high enough self-esteem. You have to believe that you’re worthy of love, respect, and care in order to demand it from others. Otherwise, you’re always going to accept being treated poorly. Truly work on embracing and increasing your self-worth. You deserve it.

Don’t ignore red flags.
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Part of the reason you’re always falling for the wrong guys is that you probably overlook glaring red flags in the early stages of the relationship, thinking that you’ll get over them or they’ll go away. Wrong! If you notice that something seems a little off with a guy, don’t just write it off as paranoia or overlook it for the sake of continuing with the relationship. Things won’t get any better the longer you’re with him. Cut the cord immediately.

Make a list of what you want.
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It sounds silly to say that making a list of qualities you want in a guy can help you avoid ending up with the wrong ones but it really can. The clearer your head is about what you want from a partner will make it that much easier to shut things down when someone you’re dating doesn’t exhibit those traits or meet those expectations. I’m not saying you should be rigid in terms of your checklist – you do want to leave room for a genuinely great guy to surprise you – but you know the big stuff that’s important to you (or at least you should).

Take your time instead of jumping in head-first.
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Yes, it’s exciting when you meet a guy you really like, but that doesn’t mean you should go all-in before you really know him. Instead of throwing caution to the wind, you can avoid falling for the wrong guys by taking your time and paying close attention to how the relationship is progressing. Only when you truly get to know him should you feel safe to give a bit more of yourself.

Listen to your friends sometimes.
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While your friends’ thoughts and feelings shouldn’t dictate your life, in many situations, they can actually be extremely helpful. They want what’s best for you and because they’re not blinded by their feelings for the guy in question, they’re able to see more clearly when something’s not quite right. Listen to their opinions. You don’t always have to act on them, but recognize that they’re acting in your best interest and may actually be making some good points.

Trust your gut.
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At the end of the day, you know deep down when something is wrong. Trust that instinct and act on it. That will protect you.

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If You’re A Woman Who Loves Too Hard, Read This

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This is for the woman who loves too hard, who has so much affection in her heart for someone special but just hasn’t met the person who’s worthy of her just yet. If you feel hopeless and heartbroken because none of your relationships have worked out. If you feel like you’ll never find the one who understands your soul and appreciates your love, keep reading because girl, this is for you.

You are not too much. 

First of all, I just want to let you know that the way you love and the way you are is not too much. Despite what any of the people you’ve dated before may have told you, you don’t love too much and you’re not too intense. The thing is, the right person for you will never think that you’re too much or too intense. The right person for you, the person you’re supposed to be with will love the way that you love and will make you feel just enough.

Don’t let the bad ones jade you. 
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I know it’s hard to keep throwing yourself back into the dating ring when you’ve been knocked down so many times. If every relationship you’ve had has ended in heartbreak, you might be thinking, “What’s the point in trying again?” I hate that you’ve been burned by so many jerks, but don’t let that ruin the rest of the world for you. There are still amazing people out there, I promise you. Don’t let yourself become jaded because there have been some losers out there who haven’t handled your heart the way it deserves to be held. Keep holding onto the dream of love.

It’s okay to have standards. 
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Don’t let anyone from your past make you think that the perfect partner that you’re dreaming of isn’t out there or that you have to somehow adjust the things that you want in a romantic partner to find them. That is a complete and total lie. No, there are no perfect people out there. We all have flaws, but the perfect person for YOU is definitely out there and you should never have to settle for anyone that doesn’t meet your standards.

Take the time to focus on yourself. 
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As much as we all want to find our soulmate and fall hopelessly in love, you have to remember the importance of loving yourself and taking the time to really focus on your own goals and your own life. Everyone says this but, it’s totally true, you can’t fully love someone else until you truly love yourself. You should be your number one priority before any love interest. Once you’ve got yourself figured out, your eyes will be opened to so many past relationships and it’ll suddenly seem so clear why they didn’t work out and why it was a good thing that they didn’t. It’ll prepare you for better relationships in the future.

Romance is not dead. 
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Despite what the terrible people out there might make you believe, romance is in fact not dead. There are still incredible people out there who will sweep you off your feet and give you all of the storybook romance feels. It’s just a matter of finding them. Don’t let the pain of your past convince you that those kinds of lovers don’t exist and you have to settle for crumbs. Nothing could be further from the truth.

You can’t “scare off” the right person.
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With women that love with their whole hearts, it can be easy to convince ourselves that we need to tone ourselves down or mute our excitement because we “scare people off” with our intensity. Please. The right person for you could never be scared away by your enthusiasm for them or the budding relationship. You won’t have to contain your joy at all because it will be completely reciprocated by the right person.

Save it for the ones who deserve it. 
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Your love and what you have to offer someone is so huge and so incredible that you shouldn’t be wasting your efforts on someone who won’t appreciate you. If the person you’re trying to show love to isn’t appreciating it or seems put off, just save yourself the time and heartbreak and move on. They’re not the right one for you.

You’re not weak. You’re stronger than you know. 
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People might think you’re vulnerable or weak because you fall in love too easily, but what they don’t realize is that your ability to be so open and willing to love is what makes you stronger, not weaker. Having the courage to love again and again is what sets you apart from everyone else and I promise you that the right person will come along and see that strength.

Don’t let others’ opinions change you. 
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Sure, you might get some flack from your friends about the fact that you fall in love so quickly and that you try so hard in relationships, but who cares? You can’t win if you don’t play the game and you’re out there trying and giving it your all. That’s more than a lot of people can say. You’re a fighter who truly believes in love. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.

They’re out there. Don’t give up. 
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The most important thing to keep in mind is that your person is out there. The person who meets your passion and effort with appreciation and welcome. The person who sees you for the amazing, beautiful, poetic soul that you are and does everything they can to hold onto you because you are a true treasure. Don’t stop believing in love and your ability to find it. It’s out there. They’re out there.

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