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How To Kiss A Guy In A Way He’ll Never Forget

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Kissing is one of those things that everyone just gets better at with time. It’s a major thing that you don’t want to peak at in high school. Thankfully, however, we all eventually get past that sloppy first kiss stage of a relationship. It takes time, good communication, and safe spaces, but there are so many ways we can improve our sex lives with our partners through simple actions. Here are a few ways to kiss a guy and make an impression.

Ask for his consent

. Whoever said consent wasn’t sexy can say that to my face. I will die on this hill – mostly because if you aren’t getting consent, you can never be sure if the other person is really into it. It might not even be personal, either. Maybe they just had a long day, but you make it even longer by not reading their signals. Make sure you get consent – affirmative and enthusiastic. Don’t just presume that you know their behaviors. Plus, the slow eye contact of asking someone if you can kiss them – try to top that. Plus, it opens up the potential for a more vocal sexual experience in twenty minutes time if you start talking early on.

Ready his body language.
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Vibe with him – it takes two to tango, after all. Pick up what he’s putting down if he wants to start of slow or go in straight away with a rather rhythm. Settle into a speed that works for you, and let your hands start to roam.

Touch.
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Try to touch his arm, his chest, his shoulders. Touch is so important to arousing attraction in another person. I know that there’s an ongoing media suggestion that all men all want sex all the time, but we have to be careful that we don’t let that alone define their sexuality. It’s a lot more complex than that, and we all want to snuggle at the end of the day. Take away the made-up rules and accommodate your relationship to what actions you take. It will make things so much more enjoyable from kissing, to foreplay, to…

Go slow.
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Why are you in any rush? Another thing that we have to relearn with relationships is the way that we are always pushing the idea of ‘progress’ or ‘steps’. You don’t always have to be with The One, and there are more ways to prove your love than rushing into marriage or meeting the parents. Take your time with kissing too, work up the foreplay. Otherwise, you will feel a bit overwhelmed and hear me when I say, it won’t last as long without the elbow work at the start.

Leave him leaning in for more.
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Don’t go on all once and play all your cards at once. Send him away a few times and you will realize that he will always come back. Let him initiate things. The guy will be desperate for more of your kiss ASAP.

Go easy on the tongue.
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There’s no need to make the mistakes of our teen years again. Less is most definitely more in this case. Be prudent with your tongue and you will be rewarded. If you are feeling like that is the vibe, however, gauge his reaction by running your tongue across his and seeing what he does.

Take things to the bedroom, or the wall.
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Whichever you want to experiment with, stick to your guns. Focus on what makes you feel good and that will get you all you need to go. If they have other boundaries that need to be negotiated or discussed, this is also a great time to air them out. You will learn from any mistakes that you make and you will be able to communicate more effectively in the future.

Ask what he likes.
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The best way to kiss a guy is by doing what he likes and you won’t know unless you ask him. It’s simple. An easy way to not stress about the situation is to simply put the ball back in his court. Ask him what he wants rather than try to guess it and waste time. If you feel like you need more out of the relationship or out of your physical connection, this is the time to communicate that. It’s efficient, it’s mature, and it’s an easy way of speeding things up in the relationship.

There you have it, a few ways of maximizing the way that you kiss your special fellow to ensure that he goes home thinking about you. Or that he doesn’t go home at all…

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Why Alone Time Is Even More Important When You’re In A Relationship

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When you’re in a relationship, you probably don’t even think about how much time you’re spending with your partner, but chances are it’s a lot. That’s normal and makes sense, of course, especially when you’re still in the honeymoon phase and can’t get enough of each other. However, it’s important to remember that you still need alone time in a relationship, probably even more so than when you were single. Here’s why it’s such a big thing.

You can’t pour from an empty cup.

In order to be a good partner, parent, friend, colleague, etc. you need to be fulfilled personally. You need to be in a good place physically, mentally, and emotionally, and you can’t be if you’re constantly giving your time and energy to everyone else but yourself. In order to be the best partner possible, you need alone time to decompress, process, and recharge your batteries. It won’t kill you to be away from your partner for a few hours or even a few days. In fact, it’ll likely make your relationship that much better.

You have interests and hobbies that are different from your partner’s.
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Your partner is into football or stamp collecting while you’re into kickboxing and watercolor painting. That’s cool – don’t give up your unique hobbies and interests for each other because you don’t need to. Taking alone time in your relationship gives you an opportunity to practice and enjoy all the things you love that maybe your partner does. Don’t ever sacrifice that.

You need your own life.
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It’s all very well that “I” has become “we” and that you’re operating as a unit on most things. It’s great to feel supported and like you’re part of a team. However, you have to have your own thing away from your partner for self-preservation purposes if nothing else. What happens if the relationship ended for whatever reason? Without taking alone time to firmly establish yourself and your life, you could find yourself up s**t’s creek without a paddle, as the old saying goes.

You don’t want to forget who you are outside of your relationship.
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Not only do you need to have a life away from your partner for self-sufficiency but because people who completely lose their identity when they’re coupled up are kinda sad and gross. You don’t need to be attached at the hip 24/7 and believe me, the people in your life really don’t want you to be. By taking alone time in your relationship, you guarantee that you’ll retain your individuality, and this is vital.

You’ll end up getting sick of each other if you don’t take time apart.
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If you want to get down to brass tax, this is a biggie. People who spend every waking second with each other might think it’s great at first, but eventually they get really annoyed and even resentful when they realize they’re getting sick of seeing the same person and no one else and that they’ve sacrificed their old life for the sake of a relationship. It’s possible to strike a balance – make it a priority to do so.

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How To Find Yourself Again After A Breakup And Reclaim Your Life

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When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s easy to become so wrapped up in the life you create as a couple that when it ends, you’re completely lost and have no idea what to do with yourself. If you end up in that situation and are unsure how to proceed, I’ve got your back. Here’s how to find yourself after a breakup and get the life you used to love back again, this time sans your ex.

Take yourself on a trip, if possible.

I say this understanding that not everyone has the time or financial means to take even a mini-getaway. However, if this is feasible for you, I can’t recommend it enough. It’s one of the best ways to find yourself again after a breakup as it gets you out of your own head and out into the world. You get to be the purest version of yourself while interacting with new people and new places. It will remind you of how strong and special you are. Do this.

Meditate.
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If you’ve never meditated before, don’t knock it until you try it. Even adopting this ritual for five minutes a day can make a major difference to your mental health and well-being as well as help you find yourself again after your breakup. It gives you time to sit, breathe, and clear your mind while connecting with the deepest parts of your heart and soul.

Start journaling if you don’t already.
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There’s a lot to be said for the power of writing your feelings down. First of all, this means you won’t be tempted to reach out to your ex and embarrass yourself/get back into a bad situation. Plus, it lets you actually get your real emotions out of you without needing to censor yourself or word things differently so you don’t hurt anyone else’s feelings. Taking the time to connect with yourself in this way is vital.

Spend time with the people who know you the best.
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This is probably one of the most obvious ways to find yourself again after a breakup. There’s nothing quite like spending quality time with the people who have known you for years to remind you of who that incredible woman is and why she deserves to be happy. This is especially important if you kind of let these relationships fall by the wayside while you were coupled up – you have some amends to make!

Discover some new hobbies and interests.
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Maybe the version of yourself you’re about to find again will be someone new to you, and that’s okay. You’re meant to grow and evolve over time, and trying out some new hobbies and pastimes will help with that majorly. Take a language class, join a book club, or maybe even use that gym membership you’ve been paying for the past two years but have never used. You never know what might come of it.

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8 Signs You’re Finally Ready For A New Relationship After A Bad Breakup

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So, you’ve made it through. You’ve made it through an incredibly difficult breakup that left you feeling heartbroken and hopeless. It was one of the hardest things you’ve ever had to go through but, you’re here, you’re still standing, and you’re finally starting to feel like yourself again! When you were going through the thick of it, the idea of ever dating again was the most unappealing thought ever but now, you’re starting to think about it again. Here are a few signs you’re ready for a relationship and willing to give love a shot.

You’ve stopped obsessing over your ex/relationship. 

At the beginning of a breakup, it’s nearly impossible not to obsess over the relationship as a whole. You’ve probably spent countless hours going over memories and situations in your head, wondering what could’ve been, if there was some way you could’ve fixed the relationship, where things went wrong, etc. You’re not wrong for thinking all these things but at long as they’re still in the forefront of your mind, you’re not going to be able to move to someone or something new. If you find yourself forgetting about the relationship or at least not thinking about it for long stretches of time, you might be ready for a fresh start!

You don’t feel afraid of being hurt again.
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This is one of the biggest signs that you’re finally ready for a relationship again. It’s totally normal to feel skeptical and afraid to jump back into the dating pool after a nasty breakup. You’re probably terrified of letting yourself be vulnerable again. There’s no shame in being afraid of having your heart broken again. When that fear is so strong that it makes you extremely hesitant to talk to anyone new or meet anyone, it might just not be the right time for you to try dating again. Be patient with yourself and let yourself heal in your own time. Don’t rush the process because it won’t feel right until it’s right. If you don’t have that same fear when you think about getting into a new relationship with someone, you might be ready to get out there again.

You find yourself noticing other people. 
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When you’re getting over someone, it’s very hard to see anyone else as having dating potential. You have blinders up and all you’re thinking about is your ex and what the two of you could’ve had. You’re probably not going to notice any cute coworkers or attractive people when you’re out and about and you probably have no desire to hop on any dating apps and talk to anyone there. However, if you find yourself being attracted to people more and more and having an urge to strike up conversations with people and get to know them, it’s possible that you’re ready to throw your hat back in the ring.

You feel lonely for a partner. 
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It’s normal to feel lonely after a breakup when you’ve been used to having a partner with you and then suddenly you don’t. But when you’ve just ended a bad relationship, it’s normal to want to be alone for a while. It’s normal to find romantic connections unappealing while you’re still adjusting to life after that bad relationship and healing. Once you find yourself wanting to have those romantic feelings for someone again, and wanting to have a companion again, you might be ready to date again.

You envision a future with someone. 
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After a nasty breakup that leaves you heartbroken, it’s hard to imagine a future with anyone where you could be happy and have the happily ever after that you might want deep down but not believe is still possible. It’ll take time, patience, and spending time self-reflecting on who you are and what you want out of future relationships. However, if you can start to picture yourself finding “the one” and having this incredible life that you want and deserve, it’s possible that you’re starting to feel ready for a new relationship.

You have an actual crush. 
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When you’re getting over someone that you really cared about or were maybe even in love with, it can be extremely difficult to notice anyone else in a romantic way. You’re healing from a painful breakup and you need time before you’ll be ready to consider having those same feelings for anyone else. If you meet someone that seems to make you feel those crush-like feelings again and you could even picture a relationship with that person, you might be ready to start dating again. Make sure you’re not pushing yourself too soon, though.

You have the urge to browse dating apps. 
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Dating apps and sites are completely unappealing when you’re still hung up on an ex but after the pain has subsided and you feel healed from that emotional trauma, you might start to have the urge to do some swiping and see who else might be out there. If you don’t quite feel ready to commit to a date with anyone but you still have the urge to check it out, go right ahead! There’s nothing wrong with downloading a few apps and seeing if there’s anyone that you could potentially click with. If it feels right, strike up a conversation and see where it goes!

You feel in your gut that you’re ready. 
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The most important sign when deciding if you’re ready for a new relationship is also the most simple one. Just listen to your gut. You know deep down if you’re in a good place and that you want to try again with someone new, so give it a go! You don’t know how it’s going to turn out, but you might just be a few dates away from meeting the love of your life. You’re ready for a relationship, so get out there and get it!

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